Marriage is a big promise to be faithful and stick together always. But some guys don’t seem to understand this, as they keep doing things with other women even when they’re married. This damages trust and upsets their partners, making the marriage unstable. It’s really important to respect the special connection of marriage and put your commitment to your partner above everything else.
Here are some of the things a married man should never tell to another woman:
1. “My wife doesn’t understand me”
It’s okay if our spouse is sometimes hard to understand sometimes – that’s just part of marriage. But telling another woman that our wife doesn’t get us is not nice, it makes our wife look bad and can lead to misunderstandings. If we feel this way, we should talk to our spouse, because that’s who we’re married to. Imagine if the situation was turned around, how would we feel? Treating others how we want to be treated is a good rule to remember.
2. “I wish my wife was more like you”
Saying, “I wish my wife was more like you,” might seem like a simple comment, but it’s actually a bigger deal. It suggests your wife isn’t good enough compared to the other woman. This can hurt your wife and make the other woman think there’s a chance for more than friendship. It’s okay to admire qualities in other women, but your wife is special too, and her strengths should be valued.
3. “Don’t tell my wife we spoke”
Being open is really important in any relationship, especially marriage. If you ask another woman to keep something a secret from your wife, it can make her think you’re not trustworthy or you’re hiding things. Even though it might be tempting to talk about private stuff with someone else, this can lead to not being honest and not trusting each other. If you feel like you need to hide something from your spouse, it’s probably better not to do it in the first place.
4. “I’m unhappy in my marriage”
We all understand that marriage has good and tough times, love and arguments. You might feel frustrated or unhappy at times. But sharing these feelings with another woman is not a good idea. When you talk about your marriage problems with her, you’re showing your weaknesses to someone who isn’t part of your marriage. This makes things uncomfortable. Should she give advice, comfort, or just listen? This confusion can lead to misunderstandings, and you might end up making things messy without meaning to.
5. “Can we meet privately?”
Sometimes, you might have good reasons, like work, to talk privately with a woman who’s not your wife. But your words can be understood in the wrong way. Asking for a private meeting might seem simple, but she might think it means something personal. This can lead to confusion and awkwardness. If you really need a private meeting for a good reason, go ahead and ask, but make sure to use professional words. That way, you can prevent any confusion.
6. ”I find you very attractive”
Sometimes, you might be around a woman who’s not your wife, and you find her attractive. You might think, “She looks nice.” But before you say anything, ask yourself: Is it worth risking your marriage for a passing feeling? It’s better to keep such thoughts to yourself. It’s okay to see beauty, but saying it out loud isn’t always right. Remember, not all thoughts need to be spoken.
Have you encountered these tricky situations? Your insights matter – drop a comment and let’s start a conversation about maintaining healthy boundaries and respectful relationships.
This article is completely spot on. And it’s exactly what he would say to me before him and his wife separated.