A relationship takes time and effort to build, but it takes a lot more to keep it going strong and healthy. No relationship dies in a day and the moment you see more of the mistakes of your partner, the more uninteresting the relationship becomes and the bitterer you are. Also, we often forget while judging our partner, our own actions. Where we evaluate every effort and every intention behind that effort we forget evaluate our own steps and efforts that we are doing to make this relationship work.
Thus, when suddenly, one day you start complaining to your partner of the things they have been doing wrong, they tell you a butt load of things you haven’t been doing right. These things might, at the moment, seem completely irrational to you, but remember, where there is fire, there is smoke.
So now, when you have accepted that you and your partner are not perfect people, it’s time toВ start working on your own shortcomings. An absolute change could be difficult but a positive adjustment is possible.
So, to save your relationship before the heated argument happens, read these most common things that couples say ruined their relationships. See what might be lacking in your relationship and fix it before it’s too late. Let’s begin.
Now, this is the first and the most common reason for relationships to end. Every relationship is based on give and take. May it be emotions, actions or time. You expect certain things from your partner. Problems emerge when these expectations become unrealistic and the partner feels crushed under the weight of these expectations and will soon start falling short of the energy and intention to keep up with your expectations. When you see more of his/her faults, there will always be something to complain about and the more complains you have more the relationship would lose its value.
Constant bickering in any relationship will cause the bond to become unhealthy. Words of criticism are like slow poisoning, you think a little wouldn’t harm anyone but over a period of time, the constant criticism causes a perfectly healthy relationship to break.
Loving someone does not mean loving their ability to become accustomed to how you want them to be. Loving someone means loving them exactly the way they are even in their own little imperfect way. Controlling your partner just makes them feel like a puppet. Stop doing it before they break the bond you have. Know that our controlling nature has a driving force which I would, in simple words, call insecurities’. Until we get a handle on our own insecurities, the partner will suffer.
This one is completely normal and often is taking place in our subconscious minds. We don’t realize, but often we start comparing our present with our past. This isn’t healthy for you or your partner because of many reasons; comparing will get you nowhere or will at least get you where your past relationship also ended, also, constantly comparing your Ex and your partner will make your partner feel like they are like any other person you have been with. Soon, the efforts won’t feel worth it for them and after that this relationship will not feel worth it to them either.
5. Less time spent
In the initial days of a relationship, people spend most of the time with their partners. But eventually with due course of time, people start giving priorities to their normal life routine. Whether it is their business or a certain hobby, after the initial honeymoon phase, the real deal hits you and you both get less content with each other. Once it gets too late, many people wonder what happened to them. Keep the spark alive, keep on making time forВ each other.
Well, this cannot be overstretched. The more you lie to your partner, the lesser he/she trusts you, and when trust is gone in a relationship, that’s trouble!
Focus on these Not-to-do points and save your relationship from becoming unhealthy.В If you have already realised that these things are the main culprits for your relationship going bad, it’s time you take charge. You know what to do and whenever you get tired of trying, remember that the best of relationships comes with several sacrifices made for its sustenance.
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Have you gotten rid of certain bad habits that had been causing trouble between you and your partner? How did you fix it? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!