Do something genuinely kind and thoughtful for your partner without them asking.
There are many different kinds of people in this world who carry very distinct personalities with them. And with these distinct personalities come very different traits that may either be good or bad for the relationship. It all really depends on the situation.
But in relationships as a whole, it is mostly important for couples to be communicative and expressive when it comes to their feelings and emotions for one another. However, there are just some people who are inherently not expressive; and so while this might be misconstrued for indifference, it’s often just a lot of shyness and meekness.
But even so, that’s a particular deficiency in a relationship that people are going to have to overcome. Not to say that these people have to force themselves to be vocally expressive and communicative instantly. That’s impossible.
It’s pointless to try to change a person’s personality in such a dramatic fashion just for a relationship. However, there are some alternatives for communication and expression that don’t have to revolve around being vocal about it. That’s what this article is for. It’s designed to give people who are inherently incommunicative and unexpressive an alternative way to show their love and affection for their partners.
The reason why it’s important for people in relationships to always be expressing their love and affection for one another is because it’s a great way to establish security and comfort in a romance. It’s the best tool to dispel and self-doubt or confidence issues in a relationship. If you never make your partner feel like they are loved or appreciated, then you would be directly feeding into their insecurities with your passivity and indifference. You are essentially telling them that they aren’t worth the time or effort that it takes for you to tell them that you love them.
So always make it a point to let your partner know that you love them. And if you have a hard time putting your expression of love and intimacy into words, then there are other ways to go about it. Also remember that it’s important to note that words are never enough. You must always be willing to back your words up with real tangible actions that directly impact how your partner feels. Here are a few ways that you can really make your partner feel loved and valued in the relationship.
1. Give your partner a meaningful surprise present out of the blue.
Surprise presents are the best and they are always going to be well-received and appreciated. When you randomly buy your partner something meaningful, it’s going to let them know that you are always thinking of them even when you’re not together. It doesn’t even have to be anything extravagant or luxurious. It just has to be meaningful.
2. Do something genuinely kind and thoughtful for your partner without them asking.
This is essentially the same as the previous entry, except it’s not based on a material item. When you do a chore or perform an errand for your partner, then you are letting them know that you genuinely care about their happiness and you would willingly do whatever it takes to make their lives a little bit easier to bear.
3. Carve out time from your schedule for them even when inconvenient.
Time is the most valuable thing that you could ever give another person. So whenever you show your partner that you are willing to spend time with them even when it’s inconvenient for you, it lets them know just how important they are to you.
4. Don’t be afraid to get physically intimate with your partner from time to time.
Physical intimacy is a great alternative to verbal intimacy. Whenever you find yourself unable to put your feelings for your partner into words, then use your actions. Give your partner random hugs or kisses. Caress your partner’s hair or skin. Any kind of physical intimacy is powerful enough to strengthen the emotional bond of a relationship.
5. Really take the time to listen to what your partner is saying to you and express an interest in it.
Just because you find it difficult to talk to your partner about your feelings doesn’t mean that you can’t be a great listener. So if you find yourself at a loss for words, then let your partner do the talking for you. Really hear out what they’re trying to say and be engaging by asking them questions. And don’t just act like you’re listening; really make an effort to pay attention.
6. Let your partner make the decisions in the relationship every once in a while.
Whether big decisions or small decisions, let your partner take the wheel every once in a while in the relationship. You can’t be the one who is calling all of the shots all of the time. It’s really meaningful if you let your partner choose where you guys are going to eat or what movie you’re going to watch for date night. It shows that you value their opinion as much as you value your own.
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