Don’t push them away.
It can be very easy to overlook the many flaws and destructive behaviors that a person can exhibit especially when you’re in love with them. Love has the power to blind us from all the bad effects that those near and dear to our hearts can have on our lives. It’s all a part of falling in love. You learn to grow accustomed to overlooking or ignoring the many ways that your partner is bad for you just because you choose to focus on the positives. While it’s good to be patient and lenient in a relationship, if these bad behaviors go unchecked, they could potentially lead to the demise of a romance. You have to remember that everyone has a breaking point. Everyone has their limits.
All of the negative feelings that you ignore can build up inside of you without you even being fully aware of it. And over time, that build-up becomes very significant to the point where you can’t ignore it anymore and you end up breaking; bursting like a balloon. We all have different breaking points. Some of us are going to be more tolerant than others. But the point here is that breaking points do exist and it would be foolish to not pay them any mind throughout the course of a relationship. You have to maintain a sense of self-awareness to ensure that neither you or your partner ever reach that breaking point in your romance.
There are plenty of perfectly good romances that end abruptly just because they neglected how they were treating one another. They failed to recognize the impacts of their actions on each other. So if you feel like you are also guilty of not really understanding the effect of your actions on your partner, then this list is for you. Here are six things that you do in a relationship that push your partner farther away from you.
1. You fail to give your partner the support that they need in life.
Remember that a relationship is also a partnership. It can never just be all about yourself and your personal needs. You have to be accommodating of the needs of your partner as well. You have to recognize that your partner has dreams and goals off their own. And like you, they will need the occasional push towards their dreams. You have to be able to act as their teammate and their cheerleader.
2. You don’t respect your partner’s needs for space and freedom.
Just because you get into a relationship with one another doesn’t give you the right to have a sense of ownership over your partner. You still have to be able to respect whatever boundaries your partner may set in the relationship. You have to respect the fact that your partner is going to occasionally need some space and freedom to pursue their individuality outside of the relationship as well.
3. You act overly jealous in the relationship.
Passion is always good in a relationship. However, you know what they say: you can never have too much of a good thing. There is such a thing as having too much passion for a person. Remember that you can’t overly romanticize or idealize your partner. They are still human beings and you have to resist the urge to act territorial. It’s okay to be slightly jealous when your partner chooses to prioritize other things over the relationship, but you can’t let those feelings manifest in destructive behavior.
4. You fail to give your partner the kind of stability, consistency, and security that they need from you.
When you go into a relationship with someone, you are always going to be looking for a sense of stability and consistency. You will always be needing someone to fully live up to your partner’s sense of trust. You need to be able to deliver for your partner whenever they need you. You need to be someone they can really rely on to be there consistently. You must also be someone who is able to dissuade your partner’s deepest insecurities.
5. You don’t do anything to help make your partner’s life easier or more enjoyable.
Ultimately, it’s all about the pursuit of happiness. No one is ever going to put up with a relationship that doesn’t add value to their life. No one is ever going to put up with a relationship that doesn’t make them happy. So if you fail to make your partner’s life any more enjoyable than it already is, you are essentially failing in your relationship as a whole.
6. You don’t give your partner a reason to look forward to the future.
And lastly, your relationship should be a driving force for the future. It should be what motivates the both of you to be better human beings. It should be the reason that you wake up with a smile in the morning as you prepare to face a new day. If you fail to turn your relationship into something motivational, then you fail the relationship.
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