How many of you have gotten back with your ex and succeeded this time?
Relationships can be messy. That’s practically common knowledge for anyone at this point. It’s not always going to be sunshine and flowers when it comes to falling in love. It can get very dark and painful a lot of times. In fact, a lot of relationships never get that fairy-tale ending that movies have led us to believe in.
Hollywood has painted the picture of a hot-pink romance that we all think we deserve even though no one is ever really entitled to anything in this world. Break-ups happen. They happen all the time. It happens to couples who feel like they can no longer work through their differences. It happens to people who no longer feel like their relationships are worth fighting for. It can strike anywhere, and when it does, you can expect things to get really messy.
For some break-ups, things can get a little more complicated. Some couples can always find their way back in love together. From here, new roads for relationships are formed. They can be smooth-sailing or they can be just as rocky as before. One thing is for sure, when you get back together with an ex, it’s never the same.
You’re both emerging as two completely different people compared to who you were before. You have the experience and you’ve grown to learn new things about each other and about relationships in general. Everything is a learning experience in this world and that is how we grow. We take our bad experience, and we extract whatever lessons we can from them in order to move on in life.
If you find yourself getting back together with an old flame, then you’ve probably already picked some things up along the way. Here are some things that you learn when you get back together with an ex:
1. You Have To Be Willing to Change
Einstein once described insanity to be trying the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. Don’t be insane. If you’re not willing to change the bad things about when you were last together, then you’re never going to make things work. You have to be willing to make a few compromises here and there. Change a few of your habits as a couple, and make adjustments to suit each other’s preferences. In order for things to work out better this time around, you just can’t afford to be doing all the things that you used to do as a couple.
2. You Have To Understand That Relationships Are Not A One-Way Street
Selfish individuals will find themselves at a loss when it comes to relationships. Relationships can never work when it’s always Me! Me! Me! as opposed to We. As clich as it sounds, it really does take two to tango and you never want to find yourself dancing to the wrong song. Understand that you’re in a relationship consisting of TWO individuals who may have differences. Know that you’re not in this alone and you can’t afford to be selfish if you want to make things work this time around. Pave the way for each other to grow and flourish as two individuals who are in a SINGLE relationship.
3. Judge Your Relationship From The Inside, Not Out
If you’re always going to gauge the success of your relationship by how other couples look, then that’s also going to be trouble. No two relationships are ever the same. You each bring your own special recipe to the table, and it’s always going to be a mess. The key is in organizing that mess into something that works; into something that’s presentable. If you’re not looking inside to find out where things are working or where things are going wrong, then you’re just not cut out to be with each other. Stop judging the success of your relationship based on how other relationships look from the outside.В – Continue reading on the next page
4. Actions and Words Go Hand-in-Hand When It Comes To Healing
It can’t all be just about words and sweet-nothings when you’re trying to win someone’s heart over. Gestures can go a long way in showing someone that you love and appreciate them. They don’t have to be grand gestures worthy of a viral news story. They just have to be meaningful and done with sincerity.
5. Growing Together Means More Difficult Times Ahead
As you get older as individuals, new challenges come in. You take on more responsibilities and you have to own up to them. The same can be said for couples. The longer that you stay together, the more difficult the challenges become. As mature adults, you should be able to work together despite your differences to overcome these challenges as a couple.
6. If Things Aren’t Meant to Be, Then They’re Just Not Meant To Be
This is the sad truth that nobody ever wants to hear. Sometimes, no matter how much you’re willing to work for it, things are just not meant to be. The best you can do is shake life’s hand and say you tried your best. Move on and try to maintain a positive outlook when you do.
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