The “L” word isn’t the only declaration of love.
Don’t buy into all of that crap about when you fall in love with someone, then you really know for sure that you’re in love. That’s not always going to be the case. Even in the strongest relationships between couples who are madly in love with one another, there is always a little room for doubt and insecurity every so often. In fact, for a vast majority of us, love isn’t always going to be so clear-cut. And that’s okay. Love is an inherently complex human sensation that very little of us can really make sense of. Just because two people get together in a relationship doesn’t mean that they are automatically going to feel a sense of security with one another. It’s not like you become instant mind-readers where you just know what your partner is thinking and feeling at all times. Sometimes, there are challenges and limitations that present themselves in a relationship as far as communication is concerned. And when there is a lack of communication between two people, then there is always going to be a lack of understanding as well. Remember that you can only ever really understand one another so as long as you continue to communicate with each other.
But just because you don’t communicate effectively doesn’t mean that your love isn’t there. We all have our limitations. We can only express ourselves so much with our words. Not all of us are as verbally gifted as others and that’s okay. Where we fall short on the communication aspect, we can make up for with our actions. And experts have concluded that that is where a huge bulk of love manifests itself. It’s really through our own personal actions that best represent how we feel for our partners.
However, the truth remains that there will be people who aren’t as action-oriented than others. And that’s okay too. It really varies from a case to case basis and it all depends on the personalities of the people who are involved in the relationship. You just have to have a better understanding of who you are as individuals before you can actually forge an identity as a couple. And in that self-discovery, you grow and develop to become better people along the way.
But if you still want to make sure that you have a stronghold on your relationship, then you can always try to be a little more introspective and perceptive. Your partner might not be saying the L word to you so often. Or perhaps they might not be very fond of grand gestures and displays of affection in your relationship. That’s all okay. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t love you. Perhaps they are more subtle with their expressions of love and you just need to try to focus on those things instead.
Be very vigilant of the language that you use with one another. If you are perceptive enough, you will actually be able to find the little clues that your partner really loves you. If you and your partner are used to saying these things in your relationship, then chances are you have nothing to worry about. You are in love with one another and there’s no denying it.
1. Is there any way that I can help you?
If your partner is constantly trying to find ways to make your life as easy as possible, then it’s probably a good sign that they’re genuinely in love with you.
2. I feel really comfortable when I’m around you.
Being able to find comfort in another person is a huge indication of what love looks like in a relationship. When you fall in love with someone, it can be scary at first. But as that love develops over time, the fear fades away and it’s only comfort and security that remain.
3. Let’s find a way to work on this together.
A relationship is a partnership. And if your significant other always wants to keep you involved when you’re trying to work through a problem together it’s because they see you as a team. And when you are a team, you always have each other’s backs.
4. I don’t like to hide anything from you.
Part of what comes with love is complete honesty as well. So even though your partner might not be the most eloquent person in the world you can always be assured of their transparency and authenticity when they’re in love with you.
5. I want to know as much about you as I can.
When you are really in love with someone, you will want to immerse yourself in the life of that person. You want to be able to climb into their skin and walk around in it. You want to see things from their perspective so you can better understand them.
6. I like being with you.
Companionship. It may seem like an understatement. But if you constantly like spending time with one another, then chances are that you are in love.
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