When things get tough, don’t hate each other.
It happens to all couples. The honeymoon stage has to end sometime and some real issues in a relationship will really start to sprout up. And sometimes, the pressure can really get to you in the handling of these issues and that’s why it’s important for you to maintain some poise and tact in trying to keep things together in your relationship. Love was never designed to be easy and you have to work very hard to make sure that your love lasts. It doesn’t matter if your relationship is still fresh or if you’ve been married together for decades; love is never something that is guaranteed to you. You always have to be continually working at it every day that you stay together. You are never going to be without your challenges in a relationship and you are going to have to try your best to solve them effectively and efficiently so as to avoid any unwanted dysfunction in your romance. Of course, all couples are different. People all have different personalities and leanings after all. And because of that, a lot of couples are going to approach different issues and different situations in their own unique capacities. However, there are also some universal rules that you really have to follow if you are purely interested in making sure that your relationship stays kept together.
It’s normal for all couples to have conflicts and disagreements every now and then. But what you have to remember is that the faster you can come to a resolution on these conflicts, the better it will be for the both of you in the long run. Drawing out arguments and fights can only generate unnecessary and unhealthy turmoil in a relationship. Of course, you can’t always work through your issues if your anger is too much to bear. It makes sense if you want to cool down a little bit before you get to problem solving. But again, you don’t want to spend too much time lingering on these arguments. You are only going to drive each other farther and farther away in the process.
But that’s just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to conflict resolution in a relationship. There are so many other things that you have to keep in mind whenever you are trying to get things back to normal with your partner. Of course, you are going to want to consciously get rid of any bad habits that you might be forming in your relationship that could further be driving a wedge in between the two of you. And if you’re interested in knowing what these habits look like, then you only need to read the rest of this article. If you are guilty of doing a lot of these things in your relationship, then you need to make a change if you want to keep your partner in your life.
1. You consent to doing something you’re not entirely on board with doing.
You should never force yourself into compromising when you’re not completely comfortable with doing so. You have to remember that compromising doesn’t necessarily mean letting your partner walk all over you. Compromising means being able to meet halfway. If you just let your partner walk all over you all of the time, then you are going to grow to resent your partner in the long run.
2. You air all of your dirty laundry out in public.
Always keep the most private and intimate aspects of your relationship within the relationship. You can’t be broadcasting your issues to people outside of your relationship. There are some things about your romance that only the two of you should know about.
3. You give your partner the silent treatment.
Communication is the number one tool you can use to resolve you issues with one another. If you give your partner the silent treatment, then you are telling them that you aren’t willing to work things out.
4. You don’t give your partner any space.
Sometimes, the one thing that the both of you need to resolve an argument is space. You just need some time and space away from one another to gather yourselves. And when you’re ready, you can go back and try to work on the parts of your relationship that need fixing.
5. You withhold affection and intimacy as a form of punishment.
If you want to be intimate or affectionate with your partner, then go ahead. Don’t withhold your affection to punish your partner. You are only adding more fuel to the flames by doing so.
6. You break your usual routine for the worst.
You start changing up your routine in your life just because of the issues in your relationship. You stop doing the things that you love. You stop being productive at work. This shouldn’t be the case. You should still be living your life as usual if you want things to really get back to normal.
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