Most of you will agree.
Granted, you are going to have to make a few adjustments and compromises in order to accommodate a new man in your life. You can’t afford to be absolutely stubborn all the time and expect someone to fall in love with you. You have to learn how to be more receptive of other people, and that may mean slightly tweaking some facets of your personality and character. That doesn’t make you a fake. It just means that you are sensitive, empathetic, and open-minded. It means that you are adaptive and that you are able to see things through the lenses of multiple perspectives. So you shouldn’t be ashamed about being able to accommodate different kinds of people in your life. It just makes you a friendlier human being.
But you shouldn’t also let it go overboard. Remember that too much of a good thing is bad. Everything should always be done and taken in moderation. That’s why you have to have your own set of personal principles about who you are and you should never compromise them. You shouldn’t be willing to give up who you are just to please everybody in the world or in this particular case, a particular man. Sure, you are interested in him and you want him to fall in love with you. But that’s the thing, he has to be able to fall in love with YOU. He can’t fall in love with the person he wants you to become. He has to learn how to accept you for who you are. He should only be pushing you to become the best possible version of yourself, he shouldn’t be trying to change you into someone else entirely. A man who genuinely loves you should be more understanding of your limitations as a human being and he should be respectful of who you are as a person.
So don’t make it a point to completely give up who you are for the sake of a love that you think is real. That’s not what love is supposed to be about. It never has and it never will be. You have to stay true to yourself, and if your man can’t accept that, then it would be best for him to just move on. If you feel comfortable with making a few changes, then by all means, go ahead. But if the changes that you are being compelled to make feel unnatural to you, then you shouldn’t have to force yourself to go through them.
Hold on to your sense of pride and maintain your dignity. There are a few things that you shouldn’t be forced to do to win the affections of another man and here they are:
1. Compromise everything that you want out of a relationship.
Of course it’s okay for you to have standards and expectations before going into a relationship. While it’s okay to make a few tweaks here and there, you should never be willing to give all of them up. Remember that you have to make some adjustments, yes, but that doesn’t mean you have to drop everything on your checklist for a perfect relationship.
2. Change how you look or how you dress.
You should never feel compelled to completely revamp your appearance for the sake of a man. You don’t have to go through plastic surgery just to make him happy. You don’t have to completely revamp your wardrobe collection to be more aesthetically pleasing to him. He should learn to accept you as you are.
3. Be an obedient little servant.
You are interested in becoming someone’s girlfriend, not somebody’s slave. You don’t have to give up your sense of freedom and independence just so you can be in a relationship with somebody. You can’t afford to let yourself be subject to the barking orders of another person for the sake of what you believe to be love.
4. Suppress your brainpower.
Don’t dumb yourself down for a man. If he were truly in love with you, he would always value your intelligence, wit, and intellectual prowess. If he is intimidated by your intelligence, then he’s not someone who is worthy of being with you at all. Remember that your brain is alawys going to be your biggest asset and you can’t afford to give it up.
5. Go on a self-imposed starving spree.
If he’s telling you that you need to shed a few pounds so you can look better in his eyes, you should dump him. It’s another thing entirely if he’s telling you to cut down on food for the sake of your health. But if he’s telling you to starve yourself for a smaller waistline, then he’s not a man worth having.
6. Let go of your dreams.
Don’t ever let go of your dreams. Don’t give up on your ambitions. They are yours and yours alone. No one should get to dictate what your goals in life are except for you. Take full ownership of your life in this respect. Your dreams are nonnegotiable.
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