There are a few things that we should never put up with, whether that behaviour comes from a best friend, a boyfriend, a colleague or anyone else even yourself. Love does really blind you and it becomes difficult to accept the fact that the love of our lives can also possess awful, sometimes dangerous qualities. How can one person seem so fantastic, yet have such horrible tendencies and habits only moments later?
Initially, the whole situation throws you into a denial and before your mind completely accepts the reality and takes action against it for your protection, it is often too late.
At that point, you only think of the ifs” and buts’, you then want to believe that this heartbreak was inevitable. Whereas, nothing is inevitable in a relationship. If a relationship is destined to break, it will start showing the signs. It is just a matter of believing and sticking to reality.
To help you out with these signs here are a few signs which a group of people told us who had been through all this.
1. When they try to change you
When you settle down with a person and become involved, you accept that person for who they are. You accept everything, and you don’t force them to change. Same should be the case with you. I don’t mean a relationship doesn’t demand change, it does and a lot of compromises need to be made in order to make that relationship work but the only way these changes become poisonous for the relationship is when they are only being made by one person and too often. You were made in a certain way, cherish it!В Someday someone will come along who will love you for the way you really are. – Continue reading on the next page
2. Abusive relationship
So many of us accept emotional abuse without realizing it. Physical abuse comes with bruises you can see, but emotional abuse is so much more deep and long lasting.
Manipulative comments, sarcasm and controlling behavior that causes self-doubt and low self-esteem.
If you are going through an abusive relationship, warn them first, if things don’t change; pack your bags and leave. No one should put up with such a partner.
3. Someone who belittles you
A person in your life who cares about you but takes every opportunity to give you backhanded compliments and tear you down. It’s often hard to understand why would someone who otherwise declares to love you would act in such a way. Often, couples make inappropriate jokes about each other in public or they might use each other’s weak points to humiliate each other, during a fight.В Whether it is due to their past or their existing complexes, it is fatal for the relationship.
4. Lying
There is no such thing as a little white lie. Little white lies never stay a secret, you shouldn’t put up with them in any romantic relationship or friendship. Nine times out of ten, if someone is lying to you about little things, they’re lying to you about bigger things. Even if they are not, a person lied to, will never trust them easily. Doubt is torturing and it exhausts you to the core. Thus, save yourself the torture.В – Continue reading on the next page
5. When they treat you as a joke
As absurd as this sounds but a lot of partners treat their partners as a joke by taking them for granted or keeping them out of their daily routine. These include, keeping you away from their Facebook profiles or keeping you a secret from their family and friends. Don’t let them treat you as a secret part of your life. If they are serious, they will make it a point that others know about.
6. No trust
Being with a partner who doesn’t trust you will be a life-long battle. Do you want to put up with assumptions and allegations based on those assumptions?В People who have trust issues will always doubt you and your effort, also they will think that they are not being trusted either no matter how much you tell them.
Trust doesn’t happen overnight but it does happen quick if you two are meant to be. Therefore, if trust doesn’t happen for the two of you for quite some time, it is better that you part ways before it hurts both of you in a much worse way.
Talk to me
How many unfair things did you have to put up with? Share your bad experiences with me in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!
