Words of wisdom.
If you go into a relationship thinking that things are supposed to always be easy and uncomfortable, then you are living under a sad delusion. You are in for a rude awakening the moment that you get into a relationship and then things start to get a little uneasy. Of course, for the early parts of the relationship, things are going to seem easy and simple. You love one another and you don’t think that anything could possibly go wrong in your relationship. You think that you have a life of perpetual elation and happiness ahead of you so as long as you stay together.
But then you hit your first speedbump, and you start to discover that things aren’t going to be easy as you thought. And then gradually, the problems in your relationship are going to pile up and then the truth is going to smack you in the face like a chair. Relationships aren’t easy. They never have been nor will they ever be designed to be as simple as you want it to be. It takes a lot of time, dedication, effort, and commitment to make things work in a romance. And even then, nothing is ever guaranteed. And it’s better for people to learn that before they get themselves into relationships so that they can better prepare for it.
Relationships were never designed for you to always be uncomfortable and you’re going to have to do a lot of things that make you uncomfortable just to make the relationship work. But it’s also important for you to remember that just because these things make you uncomfortable doesn’t mean that they are wrong for the relationship. Remember that a lot of what makes relationship works is compromise. You always have to be willing to make a few sacrifices here and there just to preserve the balance and the harmony in the relationship. You are going to have to do a few things that you don’t want to do to make your love work. And you shouldn’t be seeing these things as burdens or hassles. In fact, this is what makes love beautiful. The willingness to put yourself in a compromising and uncomfortable position for the sake of love is such a beautiful concept to behold.
So if you’re interested in making the most out of your relationship and strengthening the bond between you and your partner, then make sure to follow these uncomfortable pieces of advice:
1. You have to allow yourself to become more vulnerable to your partner.
You can’t always be keeping your guard up. As comfortable as it may be to always be hiding behind your walls, you have to be able to let your partner gradually break them down. You have to really open yourself up to your partner the deeper you get into your relationship if you want things to last.
2. Don’t expect your relationship to be the sole source of happiness in your life.
If you depend on being in a relationship for your happiness, then you’re going to be mistaken. While a relationship can supplement your sense of happiness, it shouldn’t be the sole source of it. In fact, there are many people in loving and healthy relationships who still find themselves unhappy, and that’s normal.
3. Let go of any emotional baggage from previous relationships before getting into a new one.
Getting over a failed relationship is never an easy or comfortable thing to do. But you’re going to have to do it before you can find happiness and fulfilment with someone else. If you don’t let go of the emotional baggage that you have from previous relationships, you are never going to find the stability that you need in future relationships.
4. Loyalty isn’t everything in a relationship, but it makes up for a lot.
It can be very uncomfortable to fully commit to another person. Loyalty is such a big thing to demand from other people and it can make someone very uneasy to give it. But you’re really going to have to be loyal with one another if you really want a shot at making things work in your relationship.
5. Allow yourself to be selfish every once in a while.
Surprisingly, selfishness can be uncomfortable in a relationship. A lot of people will assume that the moment they get into a relationship, they have to be selfless and generous. But that’s a common misconception. You still have to be able to take care of yourself as an individual if you really want to make your relationship a healthy one. Make sure to never lose your sense of self just because you’re in a relationship with someone else.
6. Believe that honesty is always the best policy in all cases.
Always tell the truth even when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable. Tell the truth even when it puts you in a bad spot. Honesty is absolutely essential in making a relationship last. Your partner will appreciate you more for being honest and you just have to trust in that idea.
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