Have you been in a toxic relationship?
Contemporary media has practically acclimated us to the idea of incorporating drama into our relationships. A lot of us have been conditioned to believe that toxic drama is a normal aspect of any modern relationship. That is the wrong kind of thinking. There is something inherently unhealthy about thinking that relationships need to have copious doses of arguments, conflicts, and tears. They see that the leading lady and the dazzling male actor in that latest romantic comedy are always fighting on the big screen and they think that real life should be the same way. That’s wrong. That’s deluded and foolish behavior. Real life love is never going to be exactly like the movies. But unfortunately, this kind of thinking is incredibly rampant. And as a result, there are so many people who are unaware that they are stuck in toxic relationships that are essentially destroying their lives.
Toxic relationships aren’t all too rare nowadays. And it’s always better for couples who are caught in toxic relationships to realize that they shouldn’t be settling. But the problem really lies in the realization. A lot of them don’t know that they’re caught in toxic relationships and so they don’t really know that they have to escape either.
But fortunately, that is what this article is trying to solve. If you know how to spot the red flags that could potentially indicate a toxic relationship environment, then perhaps it would be easier for you to avoid getting sucked down into that hole of toxicity. Knowledge is power here and you must always make sure to be on the lookout. Keep your heart guarded and protect yourself from getting hurt.
So if you ever find that a lot of the items on this list apply to a relationship that you’re in, then you need to get out of it as fast as possible.
1. Your partner isolates you from everything and everyone.
You are always made to feel like you are completely alone in your relationship. This is a very common trend in toxic relationships. A toxic partner will always want you to feel like you are completely worthless and alone. Your partner will want you to feel completely powerless and like you can’t ask for help from anyone outside of the relationship. Your partner will want to make you feel as weak and as vulnerable as humanly possible.
2. Your partner is constantly snooping through your private property.
Your sense of privacy and individuality are always going to be violated in a toxic relationship. Your partner will never respect any boundaries or rules that you may set in your romance. You will be made to feel like you are entitled to nothing and that anything that you might own should be open to scrutiny. Your partner will never allow you to live the life that you want to live for yourself. You will be made to feel like you don’t have control.
3. Your partner blames you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship.
Your sense of confidence is always going to be threatened in a toxic relationship. Everything bad that happens in your relationship is always going to be pinned on you even though that’s far from the truth. You will be guilted into thinking that you are the one who is problematic in the relationship and that anything bad that happens in your relationship is always going to be your own fault.
4. You partner makes you feel like you’re dependent on the relationship.
A toxic partner is always going to try to convince you of your own helplessness. You will be made to believe that you are completely worthless and that you wouldn’t be able to make it on your own. You will be conditioned to think that your sense of self is going to be tied to the relationship and so you don’t have a choice but to stay in it even though it’s very toxic. You will be led to believe that a life outside of the toxic relationship will be worse than what you’re going through now.
5. Your partner makes you feel guilty about being yourself.
Your toxic partner will always tell you that you’re not enough. You will always be made to think that you don’t have anything of value to offer the world. You will be made to feel bad about who you are so that your self-esteem lowers more and more. You will be frightened into thinking that you won’t be accepted anywhere else in life outside of your relationship.
6. The relationship makes you more depressed than happy.
And lastly, if you feel like you are more sad than you are happy, then that is a telltale sign that you are in a very toxic relationships. While relationships don’t necessarily have to be happy all the time, it doesn’t mean that they have to be sad all the time either.
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