Whenever someone tells you that there really isn’t any need for you to be rushing to get married at a certain age, there are going to be a few people out there who will disagree and say that there actually is a time limit to these things. However, the people who are more experienced in love and relationships would always be in agreement with the fact that you shouldn’t rush love at all. They will tell you that you need to take your time and make sure that you are with the person who is perfect for you.
There are just way too many people who get into relationships that are wrong for them; relationships that end up in breakups. Sometimes, these relationships serve as learning opportunities, and in other times, these relationships are just really dark and toxic experiences that people have difficulty recovering from. Whatever the case, the person you get into a relationship with isn’t always going to be the one you’re meant to be with.
And that’s the truth. No matter how much you might want to just be with the person you’re meant to spend the rest of your life with, it’s not something that you can just force. The timing and the conditions have to be right in order for you to find success in love. And if you choose to settle and force the issue with someone who is clearly wrong for you, you’re going to end up realizing just how big of a mistake that would be. And that’s not an easy experience for anyone to have to go through.
It’s true that love is always something that you have to fight for. It’s true that love isn’t always going to be easy and you always need to be putting in the effort that is necessary to find success in it in your own life. However, you also have to be wise enough to pick your spots. Choose your battles. Love is only ever really worth fighting for if it’s real. And the key is in you realizing that sometimes, self-love is going to be much more important than manufactured love with someone else. You might want to prioritize being single over forcing the issue with someone you’re clearly not meant for.
Here are a few valuable lessons that you will learn once you realize that it’s better to be single than to be with someone you’re not meant to be with.
1. Your priorities in a partner are going to change as you get older.
The more you grow and gather experience in your relationships, the more you will realize just what it is you’re looking for in a relationship with someone. You will get to know yourself better, and in the process, you will understand what it is you really prioritize in life and relationships.
2. You become more adamant about your needs in a relationship.
You will become more adamant about demanding your needs in a relationship. You wouldn’t want to be with anyone who doesn’t show the willingness to put in the effort for you. You are more comfortable with standing your ground and staying true to your expectations and standards.
3. You become more cautious with your decisions to commit.
You won’t just dive right into the pool just because the water looks enticing. You are going to be more calculated with your approach to relationships now. You will prioritize strong bonds and connections over the flashy looks and draws of a hot romance.
4. You learn the value of having a few strong relationships over a lot of weak connections.
You will come to understand that the quality of your relationships is going to be much better than the quantity. You are going to focus on the strong bonds that you have with just some select people in your life. And you won’t really obsess over expanding your network anymore.
5. You realize that marriage shouldn’t have a deadline.
You will come to the realization that marriage shouldn’t have a deadline and that you shouldn’t prepare yourself for anything. You will understand that it’s much better to sit and wait for the right one you should be marrying than to try to force things with someone just because you’re feeling the pressures of time.
6. You learn that there is nothing wrong about being single.
You will become so comfortable with yourself to the point that you won’t really care about the fact that you’re single. You will really own up to it and you won’t consider yourself to be less of a human being just because you aren’t in a relationship. You won’t tie your sense of self-worth to whether or not you are with someone.