A ‘relationship’ can mean so many different things to so many different people. Everyone has their own definition of an ideal relationship but that’s the thing, everyone has their OWN definition. It’s quite possible, however, that two people might want the same thing but don’t know how to make it work. Many people want an emotionally fulfilling relationship, they want commitment, they want devotion and as cliche as all of this might sound, it’s true.
Here’s the thing, liking someone or even being in love might be the integral part in starting a relationship but in order to make a relationship work into being an emotionally fulfilling one, there are so many other things to consider.
1. Don’t move forward too fast.
Many people want to be in a relationship that’ll actually go somewhere, one where there’s an actual future for the two people involved. This is undoubtedly a good thing but you can’t move forward too fast because even though the other person might want the same thing, they need some time and some space to actually think of where this might lead.
You’re goal oriented, you want a future but your partner might be thinking more practically. As I’ve mentioned before, feelings are what it takes to begin a relationship but there’s quite a lot more in order for it to actually go somewhere. Your partner doesn’t need to feel pressurised into considering a future so early on into the relationship. Give them time, take your own time then talk about the future when you’re sure you two would have one. This is the first step into having a ‘real’ relationship.
2. Reveal your details, gradually.
When you first start dating, you tell the other person quite basic things about yourself along with occasional childhood stories. With time, you tell them more about yourself and not all of it is funny. The relationship starts getting more and more serious as you reveal more about yourself. The key to any relationship is trust and this way, you’re establishing trust.
By revealing way too much about yourself, you might drive your partner away and eliminate any sense of it being an emotionally fulfilling relationship anymore. Call them shallow if you will but there’s only so much you can reveal at a time in order to build up trust.
Whenever there’s something relevant to the circumstance or whenever something happens in your life, you need to talk to your partner about it. See the thing is, sometimes two people choose not to talk about something that happens in their lives.
There’s a difference between being a reserved person and someone who just refuses to open up. In order for there to be an emotional bond, you need to make your partner realise that you feel comfortable with telling them about any situation you’re in.
4. Don’t make them feel unwelcome.
Up until this point, everyone reading this article probably thinks that these points are all pretty basic and that everyone already knows this. The fact is, all of these are essential for there to be an emotional bond. As basic as these might be, people often overlook them. Sometimes, all that two people really need in a relationship is comfort. This doesn’t mean that if you can burp in front of them, you’re bound to get married. It’s a lot less disgusting than that, make them feel comfortable by allowing them to confide in you and to make them understand that there are no secrets between the two of you.
5. Never forget personal space.
Talking and sharing is different than being all up in someone’s face about something and refusing to let them breathe unless they talk to you or unless they admit to whatever you say. This creates tension and the only emotion your partner will feel is regret of ever entering a relationship with you. There needs to be a perfectly well-thought-of space. You can’t expect there to always be cuddling and stuff, let them breathe. The ’emotional’ significance of this is in the sort where your partner feels like there’s an understanding, especially if they’re more reserved than you.
6. Never pretend to be someone you’re not.
This is the most crucial thing there is in a relationship, honesty. Honesty isn’t associated with words only, it can also be used for actions. Hiding who you really are just for the sake of acceptance is a ticking time bomb you planted in your own relationship. Maybe they won’t accept you, maybe they will, whatever the case might be, if the relationship does proceed under a pretence, there will come a time when you’ll show who you really are and instead of believing that that’s how you originally are, your partner would feel as if you have ‘changed’.
All of these are pretty basic things, these are well known but hardly ever acted upon, a relationship needs to have an emotional bond where two people feel comfortable and attached to the other person to a point where they don’t want it to end.
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