For one, don’t make the mistake of thinking that you’re perfect. You are a human being. You have to realize just how imperfect you really are; how you have so many flaws that need fixing. And that’s okay. That’s the point of life. No one is born without flaws.
And you’re just going to have to go through life trying to make yourself better every day. And that applies to love and relationships either. You aren’t always going to go into a relationship knowing exactly what to do. You aren’t always going to be saying or doing the right thing. And that’s normal. If you’re lucky, you’re going to get a girl who is going to be very understanding and patient with you; a girl who is going to work with you through the mistakes that you make.
However, you still want to be doing your part in making sure that you minimize the amount of mistakes that you make in your relationship – especially the major ones. And you’re going to have to realize that you’re making these mistakes in order for you to correct them. You can’t be the best version of yourself if you don’t have a sense of self-awareness. That’s why you really need to take a look at your life and police yourself. You have to be able to correct the parts of yourself that need correcting. You need to make sure that you aren’t committing these mistakes if you really want to find happiness and success in your relationships.
And if you’re curious about the potential mistakes that you might be making, then you’ve come to the right place; this is the article for you. If you find yourself committing a lot of the things listed on here, then you need to make a serious change if you know what’s good for you.
1. You choose the woman who is wrong for you.
It’s not that you choose bad women per se. You just choose women who are bad for you – and it’s possible that the woman who is bad for you is a nice girl too. You have to remember that a bulk of what makes relationships work is compatibility. And even though she can seem like a perfectly nice woman, you aren’t going to be able to make things work if you’re just not meant to be together
2. You let drama fester in your relationships.
You should never be so accepting and tolerant of drama in your relationship. If there is consistent drama in your relationship, then that might prove of its own dysfunction. You have to make sure that you address the issues and drama in your relationship before they escalate into things that you can’t fix or control anymore.
3. You move through phases in your relationships before you’re ready for it.
It can be very tempting to just skip everything and jump right to the happy ending that you want for yourselves. But that’s not how real life works. You need to go through the proper process. You need to take your time to make sure that you’re ready for the challenges that come with being in long-term relationships.
4. You assume that the relationship will last without putting in the effort.
Love is natural, yes. However, just because it might come naturally doesn’t mean that it won’t leave you just as naturally either. That’s why you always need to make a conscious effort to preserve the love in your relationship. You really need to be able to fight for your relationship because it isn’t always going to be so simple or easy.
5. You lower yourself to not outshine your girl.
You should never feel like you need to lower yourself to make your girl happy. You should always be with someone who pushes you to be your best self; not someone who forces you to hide and suppress who you really are.
6. You don’t leave room for adjustments on your goals and dreams.
Yes, you shouldn’t be so willing to give up on your goals and dreams just for anyone. You shouldn’t be so quick to give up your sense of identity. However, in a relationship, you aren’t always going to get everything that you want. And that’s why you always need to leave room for compromise. You need to be adaptive enough to adjust to the needs of your partner and the relationship.
7. You think that you don’t have to make yourself vulnerable.
In a relationship, you are always going to have to make yourself vulnerable towards the person that you’re in love with. You can’t let yourself be closed off and distant. You can’t allow yourself to be so emotionally unavailable. You have to make your partner feel like you are confident in making yourself vulnerable towards her even if it means opening yourself up to getting hurt.
