Now, it’s very important to preface this article by saying that no relationship is ever going to be a sure thing. You are always going to have to make sure that you work hard for your relationship; that you try your best to make things work between you and the person that you’re in a relationship with. And even with all the love and effort in the world, you still have to understand that there is a possibility of the both of you falling short. It takes a lot to make a real relationship work; but that doesn’t mean that you should be too scared to try.
This article is going to give you a few “hacks” that you and your partner should at least be open to trying. Of course, these aren’t hacks in the sense that they are going to guarantee the success of your relationship. As has been mentioned, no relationship is ever really going to be guaranteed. These are just hacks that are going to help put you and your partner in the best position to succeed. These might seem like some very little things but when it comes to a serious relationship, no detail is too small. You always have to be able to give importance to every little aspect of it.
At the end of the day, there’s no harm in trying any of the things that are listed on here. You want to be pulling out every stop when it coms to making your relationship work. And who knows? Maybe these clever hacks can significantly impact your relationship for the better.
1. Use the “5-3-1” technique when you can’t decide on where to eat or what to watch.
This happens a lot in relationships. It’s almost a daily occurrence, even. It’s when two people are too afraid of making a choice because they don’t want to disappoint their partner with what they choose. If you are like this in your relationship, don’t fret. There’s a simple technique you can follow. One partner comes up with 5 different options. The other partner eliminates two options; then the original partner eliminates another two options. Whatever option remains is where you will have dinner or what movie you will end up watching.
2. Distribute chores fairly.
If one of you is in charge of cooking dinner, then the other should be in charge of doing the dishes. If one of you is in charge of bringing your clothes to the laundry, then the other should be in charge of picking it up. Always make sure that you maintain a healthy balance of chores in the relationship. It’s a great manifestation of your teamwork and synergy as a couple.
3. Have private spaces that your partner can’t encroach on.
Just because you are in a relationship with one another doesn’t mean that you aren’t allowed to have your own personal fortresses of solitude. You should always be able to escape to a place that you consider entirely your own. You should always be allowed to just retreat somewhere that’s just for yourself – an office, a garden, a vanity room.
4. Make it a habit to always thank one another for anything.
Never be withholding of your gratitude and appreciation in a relationship. Always make it a point to express your thanks for each other – even for the simplest things. Don’t ever make your partner feel like their efforts aren’t being appreciated. You don’t want to take them for granted at all. That would be the quickest way to lose someone in a relationship.
5. Accept that you don’t have to win every argument.
You are bound to have a few clashes in your relationship; and that’s fine. That’s part of being a couple. You are going to be able to work your way out of these conflicts so as long as you remain open-minded and respectful of one another. But sometimes, there are just some clashes that aren’t worth having. If you know that you can avoid a senseless argument with your partner, then just do so. Not all arguments are worth seeing through.
6. Learn to be liberal with your forgiveness.
Be as patient, understanding, and forgiving as possible in your relationship. Remember that you are both only human and that you’re bound to commit your fair share of mistakes along the way in your relationship. You need to be able to forgive each other as much as possible. You can’t hold grudges. And you can’t be harboring any ill feelings.
7. Always think about what you say before you say it.
Mindfulness can really go a long way in a relationship; and you both need to always be paying attention to how your words might be affecting your partner. Think long and hard about what you’re going to say before you say it. Words can never be taken back once said, and they can have significant impacts on how your partner is going to see you.