Excuses of a cheater.
There’s just no denying how rampant cheating has become in relationships all over the world. It happens everywhere even to the best of us. It’s likely that we’ve had friends and family around us who have been in relationships that ended up being destroyed because of unfaithfulness and infidelity. And especially in this age where non-commitment and casual romance seems to be all the rage, it can be hard to spot healthy relationships where no cheating is involved in any capacity. Recent studies by leading relationship scientists and experts have shown that as much as 60% of people in relationships are likely to cheat on their partners. And that’s a hard fact to swallow when you’re trying so hard to still believe in true love.
So that’s why it’s fairly important for you to always keep yourself guarded. While love may require a sense of vulnerability and weakness on your part, you can’t be so willing to just give in all too easily. You have to make sure that a person is actually worth being vulnerable over before you open yourself up. Otherwise, you are only setting yourself up for potential heartbreak and disappointment. And you will only have a broken heart and emotional scars to show for it.
Cheating in a relationship just downright sucks; and there’s no doubt about it. It’s an unfortunate copout that a lot of insecure people in relationships will undertake and it happens a little more frequently than one would like. People in relationships who cheat are lazy cowards. Rather than addressing any internal issues within themselves or in the relationship with their partner, they would choose to do something so reckless, hurtful, destructive, and disgusting instead. And it just ends up worsening the entire situation.
But to add insult to injury, a lot of cheaters will not own up to the gravity of their actions. They will refuse to take responsibility of the fact that they betray you and the relationship. They will not want to be accountable to the consequences of their poor choices. They will try to deny things at first; or worse, they will try to find an excuse to pin the blame on you in the relationship. Don’t fall for it. No matter what excuse they give, cheating is always going to be wrong in the relationship.
So to help harden your defenses, you need to be aware of the most common excuses that cheaters give in relationships:
1. I’m not happy with our relationship and I only tried to find happiness somewhere else.
This is a classic case of pointing out an issue in a relationship in an effort to deflect from the issue of cheating. One doesn’t necessarily have to relate to the other. If your partner was really feeling unhappy in the relationship, they could have made an effort to actually talk to you about it instead of trying to seek happiness elsewhere and in the most disgusting of manners.
2. I was feeling bored with our relationship.
Feeling bored in a relationship? Then pick up a hobby. Go on a trip together. Have more sex. Go on fun dates. Do whatever you can to make things work with your partner. You shouldn’t have to buy into this excuse of boredom from your partner at all.
3. You aren’t the same person I first fell in love with.
This is another issue that can be addressed by just talking things out. Cheating is totally unnecessary and it can drive people further apart from one another.
4. I can’t deal with all the fights that we have.
Again, this is just a way to deflect from the real issue at hand. Just because you have fights in your relationship doesn’t give them a free pass to cheat on you. All couples have fights. But it’s only the mature ones who actually take the time to fix these arguments.
5. If you really loved me, you would be able to forgive me.
That’s beside the point. Just because there is love in a relationship doesn’t automatically mean that forgiveness is a given. No one should ever deliberately put their partner in such a position in the first place.
6. It’s implanted in my DNA to cheat.
No one is designed to cheat. Cheating is a conscious decision that people make just before they do it. There is no coercion or compulsion involved in the matter. It’s a choice and it’s a poor one at that.
7. I don’t know why I did it.
This may be true or this may be false, but the fact of the matter is that it shouldn’t excuse their behavior. Yes, it’s true that some people cheat without necessarily knowing why they do it. But it doesn’t take away from the fact that they know that it’s wrong and that they should never have done it in the first place.
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