If you are experienced in romance and relationships, then it’s highly likely that you know that you can be quite a fool sometimes. You might have done a few things in your relationship that your partner wasn’t pleased with – and you ended up driving them away because of it. And it’s because of these mistakes that you grow to become a better human being; a better romantic partner. But sometimes, the male mind is too stubborn to learn from its own mistakes, and it will take a significantly traumatic experience to make him see the error of his ways.
You don’t want to wait for that day to come before you actually start improving your habits in your relationship. You want to make sure that you are still presenting yourself as a man who is capable of taking care of a woman; someone who understands her needs and feelings to the highest level. You need to be the kind of guy who is always sensitive; someone who takes into consideration how your words and actions might impact her in a relationship.
There will be times where she doesn’t tell you that something that you do hurts her; and you have to be very wary of these times. You don’t want to be unknowingly driving her away with your insensitivity and your absent-mindedness. You always want to be staying on top of everything. You want to make sure that you have great attention to detail with regards to this relationship. Otherwise, you will risk losing a great girl and a chance at a great love.
So even though she might not be telling you that these things in particular are bothering her, you still have to be doing your part in making sure that you stay vigilant of how she feels around you. And if you’re completely clueless, then that’s what this article is for. It’s here to help you out.
1. You act indifferent or unenthusiastic whenever you talk to her.
If you act like you are uninterested in talking to her, then she is going to start to feel like she is uninteresting to you. And that diminishes her sense of confidence and self-worth.
This is a great way to make her feel really bad. It gives her an idea that you are the type of guy who would ignore her and abandon her without even thinking twice about it.
3. You don’t give validation to her fears and insecurities.
Even if you feel like she’s being irrational with her fears and insecurities, they feel very real to her. And you have to make sure that you appease her of her fears to the best of your abilities. You have to make her feel like she’s not alone.
4. You prioritize your friends over her a lot.
You always prioritize your friends over her. Well, maybe not always. But if you do it often enough, you are going to make her question her place in your life. She is going to start to become more insecure; and she will think that she isn’t as important to you as she originally thought after all.
5. You try to fix her problems for her.
A lot of the time, a girl doesn’t run to you asking for you to fix her problems on her behalf. She just runs to you to express to you her frustrations and anger about her situation. And all she wants is for you to empathize with her. She doesn’t want you to fix her life for her.
6. You lie to her (even when they’re just little white lies).
You can’t be dishonest with her and expect her to be okay with it once she finds out. You have to remember that this is a girl you need to trust and respect if you want her to stay connected with you forever.
7. You let yourself get irresponsible with your alcohol intake.
It might seem like something simple, but it’s still a big deal. You don’t want to be getting drunk all the time if you knew just how much it would be affecting her. Sometimes, you just have to be responsible enough to know how much your body can take.
8. Final Thoughts
It should be no secret at this point that in order for a relationship to really work, it’s going to take a lot of effort and dedication. You really need to be able to devote a lot of your time and attention to your love if you want to sustain it. If you take your love and your relationship for granted, then you really risk losing it in the long run; and it is all going to be your fault. You have to keep in mind that in life, we tend to find success in the things that we devote the most of our time to. And if you devote more time into your love, then the easier it becomes to actually sustain your relationship.