As human beings, we always want to feel love. We have love inside of us that we want to give. And we also want to be on the receiving end of love from another person. That’s just a regular part of human existence. However, a lot of us tend to be very ignorant and uneducated about what it really means to be in love with another person. Some of us still believe that love is something that happens by accident; that it’s something that can be established and strengthened with minimal effort. But that is rarely ever the case.
A lot of us end up missing out on opportunities to have long-lasting relationships purely because we are ignorant. We fail to make our relationships last because we don’t know the amount of work and effort that actually goes into making a relationship work. Plenty of us is going to have a lot of toxic patterns and bad habits that we might not even be aware of having. And the bad thing about this is that these bad habits might actually be holding us back from finding success and happiness in love and romance.
That’s why it’s very important that you maintain a sense of introspection and self-awareness in your relationships. You always want to make sure that you actually know what you’re getting yourself into. You want to make sure that you know what you’re doing. And lastly, you want to make sure that you know what kind of effect that you are giving off to your partner and to your relationship. And all of that can only be done if you take a long hard look at the many good (and bad) things that you are doing in your romantic partnership.
If you find that you are committing a lot of the things that are listed here, then you need to make a serious adjustment. These are a few bad habits that you might be committing in your relationship which are destroying the intimacy between you and your partner.
1. You play games in an attempt to boost your own ego.
You don’t want to be treating your relationship like a game. You don’t want to be keeping score. A relationship is not some kind of competition that you can win. And if that’s the kind of approach that you take into your relationships, then you’re doing it wrong. And you’re probably never going to find happiness in love in that manner.
2. You set unrealistic expectations for your partner and relationship.
The more unreasonable your expectations are in your relationship, then the likelier that you are going to end up feeling disappointed and unfulfilled. It’s really that simple.
3. You place your partner on a pedestal.
You should never be placing your partner on a pedestal. You don’t want to be romanticizing them. Yes, you want to see the best in your partner. But that doesn’t mean that you blind yourself to your partner’s flaws and limitations either. You have to see each other for who you really are.
4. You talk a lot more than you listen.
You are so fond of talking but you don’t really do a lot of listening. You talk a whole lot more than you listen. You are always just yapping away about how you feel. But you never make your partner feel like they are free to express themselves freely towards you as well. You don’t make them feel welcome to talk about how they feel.
5. You always wait for your partner to make the first move in the relationship.
You are always waiting for your partner to make the first move in the relationship. You wait for them to be the one to always take the initiative between the two of you. That shouldn’t be the case. You shouldn’t be playing that game with them. You should show your partner that you’re also willing to take the lead and call the shots.
6. You wait too long before you get sexually intimate in the relationship.
Yes, there is some inherent value in making your partner work for your love. You don’t want to give yourself way too easily when it comes to your body. But you shouldn’t be such a prude either. Physical intimacy is beautiful in a relationship between two lovers. And you shouldn’t be suppressing that sexual energy.
7. You take dating and relationships a little too seriously.
At the end of the day, even though love is a hot and serious matter, it should never be something that is taken too seriously. You always want to make sure that you are still keeping it fun and light. You still want to make sure that you are both enjoying the time that you spend together. You might be keeping your relationship running like a well-oiled machine but if you aren’t having fun in the process, then it just all defeats the purpose.