I love babies!
You might be the type of person who just isn’t interested in having kids; and that’s okay. No one expects you to be a parent anyway. Well, at least no one has the right to impose their beliefs about reproduction, parenthood, family planning, and procreation on you. You are a human being who is fully capable of making your own choices in this world especially choices that concern your own body and the bringing of children into this life. You might be the type of person who is so averse to the idea of having kids, that you take all the precautionary measures possible to avoid getting knocked up. You have seen your friends get unwanted pregnancies at such early ages, and you’ve seen just how many of their dreams they were forced to give up because of these unplanned pregnancies. These experiences have only turned you off further to the idea of having kids in the future and that shouldn’t really be a problem at all.
It only gets tricky when you get into a relationship with someone who actually doesn’t share your stance on having kids. Sometimes, it can get really awkward when you fall in love with someone who just assumes that you would want to have children and form a family in the future. It can get particularly awkward when you are forced to have that discussion for the first time. A lot of couples don’t really have this kind of discussion early in the relationship because it’s something of a taboo topic. Also, a lot of people just automatically assume that kids are going to be a viable option in the future anyway and so they don’t feel the need to ever bring it up during a conversation in a forceful manner.
So ideally, if you are the type of person who wouldn’t want to have kids in the future, you would also want to be in a relationship with someone who shares your views on the matter. So if you find that you are in a relationship with someone who wants to have kids in the future, then you really have to have that talk with your partner. You have to be able to come clean about where you stand on the issue in an effort to be completely honest and open to the person you’re in a relationship with. But you don’t want to bring the topic up out of the blue. You only have to do it when you feel that there’s a need to. And you only feel like you have to bring it up when you notice that your partner is exhibiting signs and behavior that indicate that they want kids in the future. But what kind of signs are these? What exactly should you be on the lookout for? Well, just read on until the end of this list to find out.
1. They volunteer to babysit for your friends who have kids.
They have an itch and they’re trying to scratch it. They are so desperate to be responsible for other human beings, they are willing to take on the responsibilities of their friends who already happen to be parents.
2. They always take notice of kids who are out in public.
It’s like their minds are preconditioned to sniff out kids in public places. Whenever they see a kid at a restaurant or a mall, they will be so quick to point it out to you.
3. They grow very enthusiastic and excited for friends who are expecting kids.
Whenever they hear news of friends who are expecting children in the future, they will become overly excited. They are projecting their own enthusiasm for children.
4. They integrate more people with kids into their social circle.
They want so much to have kids in the future that they actually start to integrate more parents as friends into their social circle. They love the idea of having friends who would share their enthusiasm for parenting.
5. They lament about how much fun they have whenever kids are around.
They aren’t shy about telling you how much fun it would be to have kids around. They start saying that it would be a real joy for them to be in the presence of a little child. They would even go as far to say that they are excited to assume the responsibilities of a parent.
6. They tell you that you would also make a great parent someday.
Another way of nudging you towards the direction of parenthood would be to tell you that they expect you to be a very good parent someday. It’s a very subtle and underhanded comment with extremely big implications.
7. They outright make casual comments about the idea of having kids eventually.
And lastly, a big sign that they want to have kids someday is when they tell you that they do. When they bring this comment up, it’s probably time to have that talk with them.
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