Define your relationship…
In case you’re totally new to the game and completely oblivious to the need to DTR in order to take your relationship to the next level, then you really need to read this article in its entirety. There comes a point in every relationship wherein you will really need to DTR or Define the Relationship. This is necessary because it is this conversation that really plucks your relationship out of the state of ambiguity that it’s finding itself in and you’re going to have to bring it to a state of stability, assurance, and consistency if you really want to make the most out of your romance. But let’s not oversimplify this process. Having to define the relationship is very complicated, difficult, and downright awkward for a lot of couples.
For one, you have to make sure that the need to actually have the discussion doesn’t catch you off guard. When the time comes for you and your partner to actually define the parameters of your relationship, you must already have a solid idea of your desired expectations in mind. You can’t go into this discussion without any ammo. You have to be prepared and preparedness comes with awareness and introspection. If you go into this discussion without really knowing what you want to get out of it, then you risk being pressured into doing something that you might not necessarily want to do. You don’t want to be compelled into taking things to the next level especially when you’re not ready to do so. You can prevent all of these unfortunate things from happening by preparing yourself well.
So what can you do to really prepare yourself for this discussion? How can you help your case? How can you make sure that you don’t end up doing anything that you might not want to do? Well, fortunately for you, this article will highlight the specific things that you really need to think about in order for you to come to a healthy decision for yourself and your relationship. These are very important questions about your romance that you constantly have to be thinking about so you can get a better picture of where your heart is at in this relationship. So without further ado, here are some few guide questions that you could ask yourself to help provide you with clarity.
1. Do you really trust your partner?
Remember that you could never really build a healthy relationship with a person that you don’t trust. Trust is very important in a relationship. And if you feel like you can’t trust your partner yet, it probably wouldn’t be wise to be taking your relationship to places you don’t want to go just yet.
2. Do you feel like you’re just rushing into things?
A lot of couples have made the fatal mistake of rushing through their relationships even though their love wasn’t ripe yet. Remember that it’s all about pacing. Love is a marathon and it’s never a sprint. You should only be moving at a pace that you’re comfortable with and you can’t afford to be rushing.
3. Do you feel like you have a healthy system of communication going on?
Communication is an important aspect of any relationship. You have to always be open and honest with one another. And if you feel like you really don’t have a healthy system of communication going on yet, then that’s not a good sign. Not even all the love in the world will be enough to compensate for poor communication.
4. Do you have a solid friendship that you can really build on?
At the base of any romantic relationship should always be a healthy and solid friendship. You need to be good friends first before you can be anything else. You need to be able to build your relationship on a fun friendship wherein you really enjoy each other’s company.
5. Do you know all the bad parts of your partner’s personality?
Have you seen all of your partner’s bad sides? Remember that no one is perfect. And when you choose to get into a relationship with someone, you are not only getting the good parts, but the bad parts as well. You need to be able to make yourself aware of those bad parts and decide if you’re willing to put up with them.
6. Do you feel comfortable with being yourself whenever you’re together?
You must always feel comfortable with being yourself in the relationship. If you feel like you’re with someone who is always forcing you to be a person you’re not comfortable with being, then it wouldn’t be a good idea to take that relationship to the next level just yet.
7. Do you really want to define the relationship already?
And lastly, it’s about what you want. It’s all about whether you’re comfortable with having the discussion already. Listen to your heart and don’t disregard it.
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