For those of us to whom the concept of marriage is too stereotypical and clichd, it is hard to explain to people as to why we do not oblige to marry the ones we love. It is difficult to explain to them that we understand the difference between finding love and wanting to keep it for a lifetime without any good reason. They cannot comprehend our justifications as to why we do not consider marriage the ultimate assurance of love.
There are many reasons why you do not opt to be one of the women who fantasize marriage and we are trying to explain some of them here:
1. Maybe you don’t want the support of a marriage to find life-long love:
We all have different ways of looking for and relying on true love. We search for it, take the chance to keep it and ensure that it will be ours forever. But maybe you are not one of those people who do so. Maybe you do not want the support of marriage to find life-long love. You do not resist love or stay away from it, maybe you only have a different way of trying to keep it forever.
2. Maybe you think love is enough:
Maybe, for you, the strength of love is itself enough. Walking down the aisle, cutting a four-floor cake and wearing a white gown is maybe not necessary in your opinion and you can happily live without all of it. Maybe, for you, love is enough.
3. Maybe you have been broken too many times:
We all suffer through hardships and broken hearts sometimes, but maybe you have gone through the pain more than the rest. Maybe you are the girl who knows what emotional pain is and maybe you know it better than all of us. Maybe you are the girl who entirely understands the intensity of pain that hits you when someone breaks your heart.
Maybe you are one of them who understand how broken hearts can break your entire being and how difficult it gets to gather all the pieces and put them together again and again. Maybe you have suffered too many a times and do not believe in divine promises anymore. It is your doubts that make you no longer fantasize marriage and it is all good, if so.
4. Maybe you have seen successful marriages:
The reason you do not see hope for a successful marriage of your own may be that you know yourself very well, and you know that you are not capable of coping with or making a married life work like it is supposed to work. Maybe you have seen many successful marriages and you know what unconditional love is. You have seen messy yet perfect married couples who complement each other and you find it difficult to complement someone else’s personality. You want to save lives and hearts from being broken all because you know how it feels. You know how much it hurts when what is expected is not attained.
5. Maybe you have witnessed many failed marriages:
Maybe you have seen many marriages fail terribly and you do not want that for yourself. You may have seen them closely and experienced the hard air and broken hearts that are left after the failure and you do not choose that for yourself. Maybe someone else’s failed marriage left a scar on your own inner self which stops you from forming any kind of union with another person.
You do not want to become a total pessimist but at the same time, maybe, you do not want to put other people in danger too. You are not sorry for feeling that way and maybe you are right about all of it.
6. Maybe you have not met him yet:
Maybe you have not come across the person who you can imagine spending your whole life with. Maybe you are not sure when that will happen and how you will handle it, so you just leave the fantasies for the time being. Maybe you are mature enough to understand that expectations are not healthy when too many and too high, so you keep them low and wait for that moment. Maybe, when that moment finally comes, you will realize that the wait was worth it and that he is just the right person you can picture your entire future with.
7. Maybe you just don’t dream about marriages:
Maybe you do not have any of the above reasons to not fantasize marriage and dying for it, maybe you just don’t dream about them. To you, marriages are not something to aspire to but they are lifetime decisions that you are not sure you will make. Maybe it is something you have left on your fate to decide and maybe, it is something that may or may not happen someday.
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So,В are there any other reasons you do not think about marriage? Please let us know in the comments below!