Take a break, you need it.
These days,people just tend to place too much importance in finding their one true love.They are seduced by the glitz and the glamor of the romantic life that they seein the movies. They think that life is meaningless if they aren’t able to spendit with a special someone. And so they pressure themselves into entering thedating scene. They try their best to force themselves into relationships thataren’t exactly made for them in the first place. They just want to be able tofit in to the whole concept of #RelationshipGoals and they think that being ina crappy relationship is better than being single.
That shouldn’talways be the case. People shouldn’t have to settle for any relationships thatare less than ideal. People should just remain come and wait for the kind lovethat they actually deserve. Nothing good can ever come from a person forcinghis or her way into a relationship. The best kinds of relationships are thosethat are completely natural, organic, and unforced. So if you’re one of thosepeople who just find it really hard to find success in love, maybe you’re justtrying a little too hard. Maybe it would be good for you to take a step backand just breathe for a little bit. Allow yourself to just relax for a littlewhile and just let the chips fall where they may.
There are plentyof reasons as to why people shouldn’t be dating as of yet. Everyone should knowthat timing is everything when it comes to relationships. So just be patient.Try to see what aspects of your life need fixing or healing and just move onfrom there. There’s no need to pressure yourself into the dating scene justyet. Here are a few possible reasons as to why you may want to rest from datingfor a while.
1. You are still trying to get over a previous relationship.
Emotional baggage from previousrelationships are difficult to deal with. When you want to start dating someonenew, you have to make sure that you are completely over any issues that you mayhave had with previous flames. Carrying over emotional baggage from previousrelationships can be very straining on any current or future relationships youmight have.
2. You are just starting out on a new career.
Always make it apoint to prioritize your career when you are just starting out. You have to beable to build a foundation for yourself to build your life upon. Invest all ofyour marbles in getting a good start to a solid career and once you’ve goteverything down, maybe then you should start with dating. If you try to jugglebetween getting a career and a new relationship started, you might end upgetting overwhelmed and failing at both endeavors.
3. You don’t exactly know what you want out of relationshipsyet.
You have to beable to know what it is exactly you want out of a partner and out of arelationship. If you don’t know yourself well enough to know what you want froma relationship, then you are always going to end up bouncing around from oneperson to the next. You will always be left discontented and unsatisfied withwhoever you will be dating. Do a little soul searching for now and dive backinto the dating pool only when you’re ready to do so.
4. You still have yet to forge a bond with a solid group ofclose friends.
Before you startfinding that one person with whom you will want to build a life with, make surethat you establish a solid network of close friends first. Friends are alwaysimportant for any human being. They will grant you access to so manyopportunities in life and they will be there for you whenever you need them. Ifthings don’t end up working out with your romantic partners, at least yourfriends will be there to comfort you.
5. You are gearing up to make a drastic change in your life.
There’s no pointin emotionally investing yourself in a new relationship when you are just aboutto undertake a drastic change in your life. Perhaps you will be moving to a newcity. Maybe you will be graduating college. You might be starting out on a newjob. Getting into a new relationship would only be a distraction for you, andthe results of which may not please you.
6. You may have mental health issues.
Being mentallystrong and stable is very important when you choose to get into relationshipswith people. There is a lot of stress and pressure that is attached to gettinginto a relationship with someone. That’s why you have to make sure that youdon’t have any mental health issues that may be getting in your way.
7. You just aren’t interested in dating yet.
Don’t force it.Don’t succumb to peer pressure. Just be yourself and operate on your own timeat your own pace. You don’t have to force yourself into dating people justbecause other people say so. Stand on your own ground and make decisions onlyfor yourself.
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