Your ex just couldn’t find it in him to tell you that he was sorry. It was as if he was virtually incapable of handing out apologies to you. You might even think that he was a guy who was completely devoid of emotions and feelings.
A lot of people fail to realize the importance of saying sorry – whether in the setting of a romantic relationship or not. It’s not a word that people should be taking lightly.
It’s not a word that should be uttered without any sense of meaning. You say sorry when you are brave enough to come to terms with your own humanity. You say sorry when you are humble enough to acknowledge that you aren’t perfect and that you make plenty of mistakes.
You say sorry when you put your pride aside and admit that you’ve done something wrong for the sake of saving a relationship with someone.
And when you say sorry, you show genuine remorse and regret. You also make sure that you show a willingness to work on your flaws. You show the resilience to learn from your mistakes and grow into a better human being.
But if you’re curious as to why your ex just couldn’t bring himself to ever say sorry to you, then don’t worry, you’re not alone in that boat. There are so many men out there who would never apologize in a relationship.
It’s not all too rare an occurrence and there are reasons as to why they are that way. Here are a few reasons as to why your ex could never tell you that he was sorry.
1. He was completely disillusioned to his own imperfections and flaws.
There are just some men who lack a certain sense of self-awareness. It’s not that he was a guy who refused to say sorry for his actions because he was stubborn.
It was just that he never realized that he was doing anything wrong in the first place. A man can’t apologize if he doesn’t know that there’s something that’s worth apologizing for.
He was just so egotistical to think that he was always perfect and that he was never doing anything wrong in the relationship. You might think that certain things that he did warranted an apology. But he might not have shared the same sentiment.
2. He thought that saying “sorry” was a loss of power in the relationship.
He just thought that saying “sorry” meant that he would lose a sense of power and control over a relationship. He was a guy who obsessed over the idea of power and control. He viewed your relationship as a kind of eternal power struggle.
3. He had an ego that couldn’t come to terms with his mistakes.
He just refused to accept the fact that he should apologize. It’s not that he wasn’t aware of his mistakes. It’s just that his pride didn’t allow for him to publicly admit it. His ego never allowed him to say sorry to you even when he knew that he was in the wrong.
4. He would rather that you be the one who says sorry.
He was the kind of guy who was virtually incapable of accepting blame for anything. He was always finding a way to pin the blame on other people. He just always refused to assume responsibility for his actions and faults.
5. His insecurities just got the best of him.
He was just so insecure. He saw that you were such an emotionally intense woman and that intimidated him. He knew that apologizing over something he had done wrong might have set you off.
And his weak personality wasn’t strong enough to handle the emotional intensity that you exhibited. Not to say that that’s your fault. He might have just been too scared to tell you that he was sorry.
6. He could never find a way to forgive himself for his faults.
You might think that he was just being too proud to admit that he was at fault over something and that’s why he never told you that he was sorry. But that isn’t always the case.
Sometimes, a man isn’t going to apologize because he thinks that he isn’t worthy of forgiveness at all. And that can all stem from a man’s refusal to forgive himself for something that he has done.
For instance, if your ex cheated on you and is incredibly remorseful about it, it’s likely that he wouldn’t be able to forgive himself for it. And if he can’t forgive himself, he wouldn’t be able to find any reason for you to forgive him either.
7. He assumed that being apologetic was a sign of weakness.
And some men are going to buy into the whole masochistic idea that it’s weak to apologize and that any form of weakness in a relationship is unacceptable. But that’s wrong.
Even though apologies are signs of weakness, that’s not necessarily a bad thing. It’s okay to be weak in a relationship. It’s encouraged for you to feel vulnerable and weak with someone you love. He just never realized that and that’s why he never told you that he was sorry.