Do NOT miss these red flags!
It happens all too often. When we get into relationships, sometimes our love can blind us to the many flaws and imperfections of our partners. Sometimes, this can be a good thing. Other times, it can spell doom for a relationship. Self-awareness is an important aspect of self-improvement. We never know how we can grow and develop as people when we don’t know what parts of ourselves need improvement. That’s why it is important for us to always be vigilant of any suspicious aspects of our relationships.
While unconditional love is a good characteristic of any relationship, blind love is not. There is a difference between the two. When you love someone unconditionally, you choose to love that person and help push that person to become more of who they are meant to be. When you love someone blindly, you are choosing to love someone without regard for who they truly are underneath it all. Even if you love someone, you should never be afraid to call out his flaws. Pure honesty and open communication are very important in relationships.
That’s why you can’t afford to just always be falling head over heels for your partner at all times. Try to see your partner and your relationship from an objective perspective. Reflect on whether or not this relationship is actually healthy and is making the both of you better people than you were when you were single. Here are some red flags that you need to be looking out for in your relationship.
1. He always talks about his ex and how much she hurt him.
This is a definite red flag. A man shouldn’t be talking about his ex unless you actually ask him about it. If he is constantly bringing up the topic of his ex, then that means that he most probably isn’t over her. She still constantly passes through his mind even though he’s already in a relationship with you. Be very wary of any boyfriends who can’t stop yapping about their exes.
2. He rarely returns your calls or replies to your messages promptly.
If you never get a prompt reply or an answer from him, then it means he really doesn’t care about your time. He is willing to make you wait because he doesn’t respect you enough to actually make the effort to respond quickly. If he truly loved you the way that he should, he would always make it a point to never keep you waiting. – Continue reading on the next page
3. He can’t talk about anything with you except work.
Conversations are always important in any relationship. All the best kinds of couples always practice open communication about a variety of issues. He should always be willing to talk to you about anything under the sun. However, if you find that your boyfriend can’t seem to talk about anything other than work, then that is a big red flag. It might mean that he is too career-oriented to a fault. He might end up choosing his dreams over you.
4. He devotes absolutely all of his time just for you.
This should never be the case. Your boyfriend should have a life outside of your relationship. If he is devoting all of his time to you, then that means that he is disregarding other aspects of his life. That isn’t a healthy way to go about life. He should be able to accommodate other facets of his life too like his career, his family, and his friends.
5. He gets jealous easily and often.
It’s perfectly normal for couples in relationships to experience some occasional jealousy. It comes with the relationship territory. However, you should be wary when you have a boyfriend who gets jealous of all the boys you hang out with. You should be able to have guy friends. He should be secure enough in your relationship to actually trust you to remain faithful to him. – Continue reading on the next page
6. He belittles and demeans you.
It would be absolutely great for you to have a boyfriend with a good sense of humor. It’s great for any relationship when the couples involved are laughing all the time. However, if he’s making you the butt of his jokes in front of your friends, then that’s definitely a bad sign. It means he doesn’t have any regard for your feelings. He doesn’t care how you would feel about his jokes so as long as he gets to make everyone laugh.
7. He has no regard for your boundaries.
If he is the type of guy who doesn’t take no for an answer, then that’s no good at all. He has to be a gentleman who is able to respect your boundaries. He has to be able to respect you enough to accept no for an answer. If he is overly persistent, then it means he has no regard for what you truly want in life and in your relationship.
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