While both men and women are of the same general species, they are very different when it comes to their emotional and mental makeup. No two people are ever going to be in the same in the world. We are all unique and distinct with our own ways and our own personalities. However, there are many ways in which men and women are significantly more different than one might expect. That is why a man and a woman can still go through spells of misunderstandings and miscommunications despite living together for a number of years.
There are plenty of articles and pieces of advice that touch on what men are really looking for in relationships. And as a woman, you might have read these articles already on your own time. But it’s also very likely that not a lot of this information has been retained in your memory. In fact, there are plenty of facts about men that women tend to forget about especially when they become too comfortable with one another.
If you want to keep your partner in your relationship happy, then you’re going to want to remember the following things:
1. Men still need space and privacy.
Just because the two of you are in a loving relationship doesn’t mean that he is going to want to spend ALL of his time with you. He is still going to need his space from the relationship. He still wants to be able to maintain his individuality and do things that he wants to do on his own time.
2. He isn’t always going to want to be the one who takes initiative.
When it comes to putting in the effort in the relationship, he’s going to be willing to do his part. If he truly loves you, he will not be afraid to show the initiative in the relationship at all. But he’s not going to want to be the one who does it all of the time. He wants to be with a girl who is able to show him initiative and effort as well.
3. Not all men are cheaters.
You might think that it’s okay for you to micromanage him and control him because you’re scared of losing him to another woman. You might think that it’s noble of you to be holding on to him so tightly. But the truth is that it’s actually very condescending on his part. It would hurt him to now that you don’t really trust him enough to just let him be his own person. He doesn’t want to be with a girl who assumes that he’s just going to cheat when he gets an opportunity to do so.
4. He doesn’t respond to unreasonable expectations.
He understands that you’re going to have certain standards and expectations in a relationship. In fact, he’s going to respect that about you. However, he isn’t going to respond to any woman who might have unreasonable expectations. He’s going to try his best to step up to the plate for you. But you have to know that he isn’t going to kill himself to reach unreasonable standards. He still wants you to be patient and understanding with him.
5. He still wants his efforts to be validated.
You might think that it doesn’t really matter to him whether you say thanks or not, but it really does. A lot of women think that men are typically the ones who don’t like to put in the effort in the relationship. But that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Men are always going to be willing to put in the effort. It’s just that they don’t want to be giving effort towards women who don’t really validate or appreciate those efforts. He’s always going to be receptive of gratitude and appreciation.
6. Men respond better to women who respect themselves.
He is always going to respond a lot better to the woman who knows how to respect herself. If you can’t show him how you deserve to be treated, then he won’t really be motivated to treat you in that manner. If you show him that you engage in self-love, self-care, and self-respect, then you are essentially teaching him about what kind of standards you have and how you want to be treated in the relationship.
7. He doesn’t want to be changed.
It’s either you love him for who he is or you just leave him alone. He isn’t going to want to be with someone who doesn’t make him feel loved or accepted. He’s only going to want to be with a girl who loves him wholeheartedly and unconditionally for who he really is. If you think that you can change him, then you’re in out of your head. He isn’t going to want to have anything to do with you if that’s the case.
