The best kind of love <3
If you are going to ask the most successful couples about the secrets to making a relationship last, they are probably going to come up with a variety of different answers with some very common key principles. They are most likely to tell you that successful relationships are really built on open and honest communication, patience, gratitude, understanding, empathy, and commitment.
Some relationship experts believe that the whole idea of having a soulmate and having one is downright ludicrous. They scoff at the people who think that thy only ever have one real shot at gaining true love and if they fail, then they will have failed forever. They believe that there is no such thing as finding a perfect match because perfection just doesn’t exist in this life. There is no truth to the idea that love is only afforded to a select few couples.
Relationships are all about having to endure the fact that you’re probably not meant to be together. The strongest relationships are the ones that don’t have it easy. They are the ones who see all the challenges and hurdles that come with being in a relationship and they find a way to overcome them. They understand that love is never a straight path towards the finish line. It’s a maze that both of you are going to have to navigate through together as a couple.
A lot of us are going to have our fair share of insecurities. It’s only normal, of course. We are all human after all. We understand that none of us are perfect and we are all prone to the occasional stumble and setback this especially applies to relationships too.
We get into a loving relationship with someone, but that doesn’t mean the insecurities won’t ever surface. We find ourselves wondering if our relationship is really strong enough. We ask ourselves if our relationship really has what it takes to go the long haul. We wonder if our relationship has the kind of strength and synergy that matches those of the strongest couples we know. We subject our relationships to comparisons with other relationships because we want to get a better idea of just how strong our relationship really is of whether it’s healthy or not.
There is no set blueprint of what a perfect relationship looks like and perhaps that’s what people struggle with the most. There is no ideal rubric to which they can hold their relationship to and they often feel lost in their romance. But that’s completely normal and it shouldn’t worry most couples. All relationships are unique and each one of us can have different experiences that are just as meaningful and as fulfilling as the other.
You should pursue your own brand o happiness and fulfillment in your relationships. But of course, there are certain common themes that can be found in the best kinds of relationships that you can consider emulating. Here are some common signs that the relationship that you’re in is indeed the best one ever.
1. Your partner allows you to freely express yourself whenever you want.
You are never made to feel like you have to censor or suppress yourself in your relationship. Your partner always offers you space and a platform to express yourself whenever you want.
2. Your partner respects whatever boundaries that you set.
Despite the fact that you’re in a relationship, your partner still respects your individuality and your sense of self. They would never make you feel like you would have to compromise who you are just for the relationship.
3. You are deeply content with the state of your relationship.
You like the way that things are. You aren’t necessarily waiting for a significant change. You aren’t anticipating a major spark. You like how things are flowing and you wouldn’t have it any other way.
4. You make decisions as a couple.
Your partner never excludes you from making important decisions. Your thoughts and your opinions are always valued and they are never belittled. Your partner always makes sure that you feel included and appreciated.
5. You both give equal efforts in the relationship.
There are no imbalances in your relationship whatsoever. There is a smooth synergy there that could really serve as the foundation for great things in the relationship. You both love one another very much and you act on your love in equal parts.
6. You have a mutual trust for one another.
You both trust one another as mature individuals. You feel completely fine with being vulnerable with one another because you trust that one would never betray the other.
7. You don’t feel like there is a shortage in your levels of intimacy.
You have no problems with being intimate with one another whether it be emotionally or physically. You are always building on the connection that you have as a couple.
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