Having a relationship come to its end can always be rough. You try so hard to make things work and then things just don’t go your way. And so you decide to be mature about it and you both go your separate ways. You try to move on in life. You try to make the best of what you have and you try to do what you can. You put your game face on – and you keep pushing forward. But then, something holds you back. Your ex-boyfriend has resurfaced and he’s hinting at the idea of the two of you getting back together.
Is he really interested in starting up something with you again? Is he just messing with you? Are you really going to be getting back together? It’s all very unnerving. First of all, you’re still reeling from the effects of the initial breakup. That wasn’t easy at all. And now you’ve decided to move on with your life; but then your ex decides to mess that up for you too. He decides to throw a wrench into the machine. So now you’re confused and you don’t know what to do. You don’t understand the situation that you’re in and you really don’t know how you’re supposed to respond.
Don’t worry. People have been in the same predicament before. You’re not alone in this. And the fact that you’re reading this article is a good sign. It shows that you have the initiative to try to make sense of everything; that you don’t want to be rash or anything. The last thing that you want to do is act on impulse. You don’t want to be moving too hastily. You want to make sure that you fully understand the situation that you’re in before you come to a decision on anything.
First of all, it’s important for you to know that just because he happens to still have feelings for you doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s going to want to get back together with you. The same might be true in your case. You might still have some lingering feelings with him right now, but that doesn’t mean that you want to be in a relationship with him. It’s normal for couples who have broken up to retain a few of those feelings even long after the breakup – what’s important is whether or not they choose to act on those feelings.
You need to figure out for yourself if you want to get back with your ex or not. If you feel like you could still make it work, then maybe it’s something worth thinking about. But if not much has changed since your initial breakup, then it’s probably best to just leave things on their own. A man isn’t always going to be so upfront about wanting to get back together with you. But he’s going to be dropping a few hints here and there as a way to gauge whether you’re interested or not. Here are a few signs that your ex definitely wants to get back together with you:
1. He asks you if you’re dating anyone new.
2. He casually brings up random memories of the times you’ve spent together.
3. He makes an effort to make himself a better person.
4. He really lets you know how much he misses you.
5. He goes out of his way to come into contact with you.
6. He acts jealous whenever he sees other men in your life.
7. He pores over what could have gone wrong in your relationship.
At the end of the day, you’re going to have the final say as to whether you get back together or not. Sure, all of the signs could be there, but if you don’t feel like you should be getting back together, then you don’t have to do anything. You can just move on with your life and hope that he eventually moves on as well so that he won’t have to bother you with his feelings anymore. However, if you feel like you’re willing to give things a second try, then that’s your own prerogative. No one is going to tell you how to live your life.
It’s just important that you understand all of the risks that are involved with getting back into a relationship with someone who you have failed at love with once before. You have to make sure that your reasons for getting back together aren’t impulsive and purely emotional.
You have to think about the position that the both of you are in before you come to a decision. Yes, there has been the success for couples who have gotten back together after an initial breakup. But that success isn’t always guaranteed. You just have to make sure that you stick to whatever decision you make – and you try your best to make it work.