All marriages are always going to have their fair share of problems and issues. There is just no getting around it. That’s the nature of relationships and human interaction. And yes, you should always be doing your part to fix these issues. Naturally, there will be a few little nags here and there that you should probably just ignore.
These are the little “problems” in a relationship that aren’t typically problems at all. Rather, these are just annoyances that don’t really hold much weight.
However, you need to learn to separate these from the real problems in the relationship that will require your attention. These problems aren’t always going to be so obvious. These problems aren’t always going to be so grand. Sometimes, they can be very subtle and underlying that you don’t really think much of it.
You might not really be able to solve these problems unless you know that they’re there. And that’s why you must always try to stay on top of the things that are going on in your relationship. You want to make sure that you aren’t being oblivious to the many things that you should stay mindful of in your marriage.
That’s what articles like this are for. They are there to help provide you with the perspective that you might need to really make sure that the gears are grinding smoothly in your marriage. The more aware you are of any potential problems, then the easier and quicker it will be for you to respond to them once they are there. Here are a few signs that your marriage is broken and you need to fix it.
1. You feel anxious about the idea of being around your partner.
Whenever you are around your partner or whenever you anticipate being with them, you just feel anxious. You feel like you aren’t really comfortable. You are always anticipating that something is going to go wrong as the result of the two of you being together.
2. You still feel alone even when you’re together.
The whole point of getting into a romantic relationship with someone is being able to get intimate with that individual. Companionship should never make you feel like you are alone. That’s why you know that your relationship is definitely broken if you still feel alone in spite of the fact that you and your partner are still together.
3. Financial talks always turn into arguments.
Finances are always going to be sensitive matters. And you want to make sure that you and your partner are able to have mature conversations about the state of your finances. If you are incapable of doing so, then that’s a sign of serious dysfunction in your relationship.
4. You get personal whenever you fight.
Fights in a relationship are okay. You are bound to have a few arguments every now and then because of your differing personalities. However, you should always make it a point to not get personal with your arguments. You always want to keep things clean and mature. Always stay focused on the issue at hand and don’t be attacking each other’s personalities.
5. Your partner makes jokes about you that make you feel bad.
You should always be looking to inject as much humor as possible into your relationships. It’s important that the two of you are able to laugh as much as you can when you’re together.
However, that shouldn’t be taken to mean that you always make fun of each other. You still have to show respect for your partner’s dignity. And it’s a problem if your partner thinks it’s okay to make hurtful jokes at your expense.
6. You feel like you are your partner’s therapist.
Naturally, you will always want your partner to open up to you about feelings and emotions. You will want a partner who has no problems with being completely raw, honest, and real with you.
However, there are certain things that you can’t do: such as serving as your partner’s therapist (unless you actually are a licensed therapist, to begin with). Mental health issues can wreak havoc on a relationship. And sometimes, you can’t fix them on your own.
7. You find it really difficult to come to decisions as a couple.
You find it very difficult to come to decisions in your relationship. It doesn’t matter whether they are big or small. It seems to be a real difficulty for you to decide on anything. You can’t pick a place to vacation to or when you’re supposed to do it. You can’t come to a decision on movies that you want to see together.
You can’t decide on whether to have kids or not. These are signs of fundamental dysfunctions within your relationship dynamic that need to be addressed.