What is this concept of settling? Well, it happens all too often in the lives and relationships of people around us, we should at least familiarize ourselves with the concept. We all dream of having an amazing kind of love. We all want that for ourselves. But sometimes, the love that we have in our mind doesn’t exactly match up to the love that we’re given in real life. Sometimes, that’s okay. Ad sometimes, it isn’t. It’s only ever really okay if your expectations were already unreasonably high to begin with.
You have to understand that reality is never going to be like they make it out to be in the movies. And that’s something that all mature adults who are getting into relationships need to grasp by now. And it’s only through experiencing the reality of relationships where they really discover that their standards were unreasonable and they need to settle for whatever reality has to offer them. In that sense, settling isn’t so bad. But there is a bad kind of settling; the kind that can breed toxicity and dysfunction in a relationship.
It’s when a person is so desperate to be in any kind of relationship, that they choose to just jump on to any kind of relationship that they can – regardless of how the relationship makes them feel. They are so afraid of being single that they will cling to the first person who gives them the least bit of attention. And you never want that for yourself. You don’t want that kind of partner. You don’t want someone who is only settling for being with you because they can’t have what they really want.
So how do you make sure that you’re actually with someone who isn’t just settling for you? And why is that important? Well, it’s important because you want to make sure that you have someone who loves you for who you really are – someone who isn’t just treating you like some kind of placeholder until someone better comes along. And it’s easy to spot if a person’s feelings for you are real or not. It’s all a matter of being perceptive and observant in your relationship. If you find that your man is actually guilty of doing a lot of the things that are listed on here, then his feelings for you are probably genuine; he’s not just settling.
1. He really puts effort into learning more about the things you’re most passionate about.
He knows that you are a complex human being who has lots of passions and little interests – and he wants to really get to know you better by immersing himself in the things that you’re most passionate about. He will really show an utmost interest in your life because of how much he likes you.
2. He always makes sure to act like a real partner you can rely on in life.
He isn’t going to be the type of guy who flakes out on you when things get difficult. He is really going to be as dependent and as reliable as can be. He will always be there for you – especially during the times when it’s inconvenient to do so.
3. He doesn’t make you feel judged for who you are or what you do.
He is never going to make you feel like he sees you as a lesser person because of who you are or what you do. He is always going to make you feel accepted. He makes you comfortable with just being your genuine self.
4. He tries his best to connect with you in various ways.
He is really going to make an effort to connect with you. He knows that the key to sustaining a relationship with you is by establishing a real connection with you – and he is going to do his best to build on that connection.
5. He doesn’t shy away from planning for the future of your relationship.
He doesn’t see you as a mere temporary fling. He sees a genuine future with you and that’s why he isn’t afraid of just talking and planning for the future of your romance.
6. He prioritizes you and makes you feel important.
He is never going to make you feel like you don’t matter much to him. He isn’t going to make you feel like you’re going to have to take a constant backseat to his life. He is always going to do his part in ensuring that you know just how much you mean to him – whether through words or through actions.
7. He really pays attention to you and he always takes into consideration whatever you have to say.
He isn’t the kind of guy who is going to be dismissive of whatever you have to say. He’s a guy who is always going to pay attention to the words that come out to your mouth because he values the things that go on in your mind.
