What did you learn after your last breakup?
Dating is such a complicated ocean that a lot of us will tray to sail through. We have to do it because it’s a necessary step that we take to find love in our lives. But there’s just no getting around how complicated and messy that it can get at times. However, through that complicated web of emotional turmoil, one can always be rewarded for braving the rough seas. A lot of us will start to develop feelings of romantic love for other people when we’re in our teenage years. And later, as we go on in life, we grow to discover the many complexities that come with falling in love and all of the hardships that are attached to it as well. We grow to understand the risks that come with attachment and expectation. We grow to understand the pain that comes with disappointment and betrayal. A lot of us won’t be so lucky to find success in love at the first try. But that’s okay. It’s through these failures with our attempts at love where we really grow and develop into the individuals that we’re meant to be.
Of course, no one ever really goes into a relationship thinking that they’re going to breakup. All normal couples will get together with the hopes that they have the love, compatibility, and emotional maturity to actually make things last. But not everything is built to last. Not everything is going to go our way. And we just have to come to terms with the fact that sometimes, couples break up. And it can be a very devastating and emotionally traumatizing ordeal. There are very little things to be happy about when you fall deeply in love with someone and you realize that you’re going to have to let that person go because things just aren’t working out. The art of detachment isn’t going to be as easy as one might think. It’s painful when you have to walk away from a relationship that you were so invested in. But not everything has to be all bad.
As difficult as it might be to have to bear with the pain that comes with breakups, not everything is going to be absolutely terrible. As they say, there is a silver lining to every situation. However, a lot of us are prone to not noticing the bright side of the situation because we can get so caught up with the devastation of it all. And while it’s okay to mourn a breakup, it’s never okay to let that remorse consume you. You have to be able to pick yourself up and dust yourself off if you ever want to find happiness again. And that all starts with making sure that you focus on the positives of the situation that you’re in.
1. You will come out gaining a better understanding of what you want out of your partners and relationships.
You will grow to learn more about what your priorities really are as far as your love life is concerned. And the better you understand yourself, the easier it will be for you to spot out the love that’s right for you.
2. You will gain more freedom to pursue the things that you want for yourself.
Being thrown back into the single life is going to liberate you. You are going to get to do everything that you could never do in a relationship. You will be allowed to be selfish. You will get to pursue the things that you really want for yourself.
3. You will be proud of yourself for being able to find the strength to forgive.
Forgiveness is a huge aspect of maturity. When two people break up, there can be ill feelings there. But you will know that in order for you to move on, you’re going to have to forgive. You’re going to have to let go of those ill feelings.
4. You will realize once again how fulfilling it is to live and succeed at life on your own.
You will come to realize that you won’t have to settle for being in a relationship in order to find fulfilment.
5. You will grow to discover that your happiness isn’t tied to being in a relationship.
You will start to really understand what it means to be happy on your own. You won’t ever have to find happiness in another person anymore. You will be forced to find happiness in yourself and you will become stronger because of it.
6. You will grow a better sensitivity for the people around you who are also hurting.
You will grow to understand that the pain that you’re experiencing is no easy pain to deal with. And so you will become more patient and understanding of people who are going through similar pains.
7. You will start to embrace the pain that comes with growth.
You know now that substantial growth always stems from some sort of pain. And so you prepare yourself for whatever pain you will have to endure in life because you know that this pain is sometimes necessary for growth.
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