What a lot of couples don’t realize about their relationships is that intimacy is key. You always need to be doing your part in STRENGTHENING the intimacy in your relationship. It’s not just a matter of establishing intimacy when you first get together. It’s all about taking that initial spark and connection that you have when you’re just starting out and growing it to make sure that it reaches its full potential. You can’t be content with just being intimate with your partner during the earliest stages of your relationship. The longer you stay together, the more you have to put in the effort to be intimate with one another.
Why? Because intimacy is a great tool that you can use to help you overcome the many problems and hurdles that your relationship may have to face. The closer and more intimate you are with your partner, the more likely that the two of you will be on the same page with regards to solving the problems in your relationship. A lot of couples make the mistake of thinking that intimacy is something that comes naturally. No. That’s not the case. You always need to be doing everything you can to build on the intimacy in your relationships
And if you feel like you don’t necessarily know how to do that, then that’s okay. That’s what this article is for. And it’s good that you’ve shown the initiative to learn. It shows that you’re willing enough to try whatever it takes to make sure that your relationship stands the test of time. So, if you’re genuinely interested in strengthening the intimacy levels in your relationship, don’t be afraid to try out a few of these things:
1. Learn to give without expectations.
Part of building intimacy in a relationship is learning to give without expectation. It’s about sharing as much as you can to your partner without expecting anything in return. It’s not about doing something nice so that you expect that niceness to return to you.
2. Find beauty in the ordinary and mundane.
A bulk of what makes up a romantic relationship is ordinary and mundane. A lot of it can be quite boring. And that’s why it’s important for you to be able to find beauty in the mundane. You need to be able to fall in love with the ordinary just as much as you would the beautiful.
3. Own up to who you really are.
Be who you really are. Never feel like you have to project a certain image or version of yourself. Never feel like you have to wear a mask. Never feel like you have to censor your true self. Part of being intimate is being able to come to terms with who you really are.
4. Be comfortable with being on your own.
Being intimate in a relationship means maintaining your independence. As counterintuitive as that may seem, it’s the truth. You need to be okay with being on your own so that you don’t put too much reliance on being with another person. It eases and relieves the tension and pressure in a relationship when you don’t act overly dependent on it for comfort.
5. Be willing to have difficult conversations and arguments.
Part of building intimacy is being able to talk about deep and serious issues. And these aren’t always the most comfortable conversations to have. That’s why you need to be willing to have these difficult discussions.
6. Learn that a relationship is never going to make you feel whole.
Know that you can’t look to a relationship to give you a sense of completion. You need to be able to do that intrinsically. You need to be able to find wholeness in yourself.
7. Stop trying to change your partner into someone else.
Accept your partner for who they really are. Learn what it means to love someone unconditionally. You need to be content with who your partner already is. Don’t be treating your partner like some kind of charity project. You don’t have to save your partner from who they are. You have to learn to love them – all parts of them; not just the parts that are convenient to love.
Of course, some of these techniques may work, and some may not. These are only a few things you can do and you shouldn’t really be limiting yourself to them. You can choose to do your own thing. Figure out what really works for your own relationship. You know your relationship the best and you know how to best strengthen the intimacy between you and your partner. It all just starts with accepting the fact that intimacy is important if you want to carry on in your love together. And as long as you’re willing to acknowledge that, then you are already putting you and your relationship in a better position to succeed.