Pet names are cute and everything, but…
Generally speaking, a lot of people are going to find the whole concept of pet names in a relationship really corny. Whenever people in relationships start giving each other pet names, things will start to take a sappy turn in the relationship and sappiness just isn’t meant for everyone. It also doesn’t help that a lot of pet names that you could use for your partner are pet names that you could use for kids or pets. So don’t be surprised that not a lot of people are going to be comfortable with having pet names in a relationship.
But on the other side of the spectrum, there are those people who respond well to pet names. They are those who get very tingly feelings inside whenever their partners decide to give them pet names as a show of endearment and affection. And as a rule, if it feels natural for you to give your partner a pet name, then you should. It shouldn’t always have to be so complicated. But if you are an inherent overthinker and you really want to put a lot of thought into this gesture, then this article is for you.
You’re still on the fence about giving your partner a pet name because you don’t know how to go about it and you’re unsure how they’re going to receive it. That’s perfectly fine. These are normal thoughts that any overly cautious person would have in a relationship. You probably aren’t the only person who thinks like this. So if you’re really going to think long and hard about this, then at least use this article as a guide to help you structure your thought process. Here are some things that you need to ask yourself before you decide to give your partner a pet name.
1. Are the both of you in an official relationship?
You don’t want to be overstepping your boundaries. You don’t want to come off as a person who is just overly assuming. You have to make sure that whatever love or romance that may be between the both of you is real and legitimate. It’s weird to give pet names to a person you don’t have a real relationship with. You will just seem like big creep.
2. Why do you want to give your partner a pet name?
It has to come intrinsically. Your reasons for giving your partner a pet name have to be motivated by your own desires, and not by others. Just because you see everyone else doing it doesn’t mean that you have to follow suit.
3. Have they used pet names on you before?
If they have used pet names on you before, then it makes your decision-making process much easier. Obviously, your partner is okay with the idea of having pet names in the relationship. Now all you have to do is think about whether you are fond of having pet names for one another. If you do, then there’s practically nothing from stopping you anymore.
4. Does your partner have an inherently cynical and grouchy personality?
Again, you have to be wary. Some people don’t respond well to being given pet names. There is a chance that your partner might find it too corny and just plain pathetic. But then again, you know your partner best and so you would be the ideal judge in this situation. Remember that when you get together, your relationship takes on a personality of its own as well. It’s usually the added elements of your individual personalities. So if you feel like your relationship’s personality warrants pet names, then go right ahead.
5. Do you want them to give YOU a pet name?
If you don’t want to be given a pet name by your partner, then you shouldn’t feel compelled to give them one either. If you are one of those people who find pet names corny, then you shouldn’t have to participate in that phenomenon. You don’t have to give in just because you see couples around you who are doing it as well.
6. How long have you been dating?
Length of time is a very important factor to consider whenever you’re deciding on pet names in the relationship. For instance, if you’re on your first date and you decide to call your partner babe, then that might come off as totally weird, aggressive, entitled, and out of place.
7. Do you really want to give your partner a pet name?
Or do you feel like you’re just being forced to because you’ve seen so many other couples do it as well? The point here is that you should never be coerced or compelled into expressing your endearment for your partner via a pet name. It should be something that comes naturally and innately to the both of you. It should be something that really suits your relationship’s personality.
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