Always make sure that you never underestimate the value of your words.
Of course, as ladies, it’s perfectly natural for you to have your expectations regarding a relationship. You will want your man to treat you a certain way. You would never settle for a disappointment because you know that a disappointing love is not one that you deserve.
And so yes, you set your expectations for your man and he has to be able to meet them if he wants to keep you in his life. He has to be able to present himself as a person who is actually worthy of your love. He can do that by simply living up to the standards and the ideals that you set for him. However, if he fails to meet your standards, then you are perfectly free to move on to someone who will.
But, it’s also important for you to be mindful of his needs and of his expectations. It’s going to be more of a struggle for you because men don’t typically like to open up about their needs and wants in a relationship. They tend to keep to themselves and they don’t like to present themselves as vulnerable creatures.
They don’t want to demand anything of you because they are afraid they might come off as needy and dependent. But the truth is, men are fragile, and they have needs. It’s just that they’re too stubborn to admit it sometimes. This is where you step in. You have to stay ahead of the curb. It can be difficult to figure out what your man really wants, and that’s what this article is for. Let this serve as a guide for you to please your man.
Remember that a huge part of relationships is being able to communicate with each other well. You must always be mindful of the words that you use (and do not use) on your man. Sometimes, there will be specific words that your man will want to hear come out of your mouth. But he’s not going to tell you that. It can be frustrating, yes. But you don’t have to fret.
Here are those things that you need to be telling your man to make him happy. If you are already saying a lot of the things that are listed on here to your man on a consistent basis, then that’s good. You’re a really great girlfriend already.
1. How are you?
Most likely, your man isn’t one who is known to express himself spontaneously. But sometimes, all he may need is a little nudging and prodding on your part. Maybe you just need to remind him every once in a while that it’s okay for him to open up to you about how he is feeling or what he is thinking.
2. I feel so safe whenever I’m with you.
Yes, it’s important for you to tell your man that you love him. But it’s also very important to him that he knows about his value in your life. Remember a man’s paternal instincts are always going to be strong. He knows you are an independent woman but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to take care of you. If he knows that you feel safe whenever you’re together, then he will be happy about the job that he’s doing.
3. I believe in you.
You would be surprised at how fragile the egos of a lot of men are. Even the slightest setback will be able to completely obliterate their confidence into smithereens. So every once in a while, let your man know that despite his shortcomings and imperfections, you still believe in him.
4. Let’s head out on the town tonight.
A man always loves it when his girl takes the initiative every so often. If on spontaneous nights, you decide to take matters into your own hands and plan dates on your behalf, then he’s going to love that about you.
5. You’re the one that I want.
As previously mentioned, a lot of men have deep-seeded insecurities that they would never willingly reveal t you. They might not mention it, but they’re always scared of losing you to another guy. That’s why it’s a good idea for you to always reassure him of your commitment to him even when he doesn’t ask for it.
6. I’m always thankful to have you.
Show him your appreciation. It adds to his validation as a man and as a human being. When you tell your man that you are grateful for having him in your life, then you are essentially reminding him of his worth in the world.
7. I love you more than anyone.
And lastly, and most obviously, you should always tell him that you love him. You should never be missing out on an opportunity to let each other know that you love one another. That’s what all great couples do on a consistent basis.
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