Are you having any or all of these thoughts?
It sucks whenever things don’t seem to be clicking with regards to your love life. You start to wrack your brain in an effort to figure out why things don’t seem to be working for you. You want to say that maybe it’s because you haven’t been dating the right people. It would be so much easier if that were the case. Then that would mean that the right one would just have to show up and everything will turn out fine. And if you’re lucky enough that might actually be the case.
However, you also have to consider the alternative. Perhaps the reason why you can’t seem to find the right person for you is because you are a sabotaging your own love life to the point that you drive the right people away. Perhaps you are the one who needs fixing; not the people that you date. You can’t be so naГЇve and arrogant to think that there’s nothing wrong with you. Think about it. Out of all your failed experiments at love, you are the common factor in all of these equations. So maybe you really are the problem.
But that’s okay. The good news here is that if you know that you’re the problem, then you know that you can also fix it. You would never want to keep being the person who keeps holding yourself back from finding true love. You want to meet the right person for you. You want to fall in love with them and you want them to be just as emotionally invested in you. And that all starts with you actually taking a deep look within yourself. You have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and find the parts of you that you can improve on.
Sometimes, all it really takes are a few simple adjustments to the way that you approach love and the way that you look at relationships as a whole. Here are 7 unhealthy things that you think which are sabotaging your chances at landing yourself in a happy relationship:
1. You think that there is no one out there for you.
There is someone out there for you you just have to believe in it. It’s not about thinking that you can practically land any person you want. But it’s about believing in the power of love and how love is something that everyone is deserving of. You just have to stay patient and positive believe that you can find the love that you are deserving of and it will eventually come to you.
2. You think that no one is going to love you until you change who you are.
You can try to make yourself into the best possible version of yourself, of course. That’s the essence of life after all. It’s constant growth and development. But don’t think that you have to alter the fundamental core of your being just so other people will love you.
3. You think that just because you have failed at love so many times before, you’re probably never going to succeed at it.
If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. And if you fail once more, then pick yourself up and try again. It’s all about being resilient and keeping the faith.
4. You think that you don’t have the time to actually make a relationship work.
Everyone has time for the things that are most important to them. And if it’s important to you that you have a happy and healthy romantic relationship with someone, then you would actually make the time for it. If you refuse to make time for it, then that is no one’s fault but your own.
5. You think that you have an unlimited array of options.
The people you date aren’t going to be lined up like an array of food at a buffet. You can’t keep on going into relationships thinking that you don’t have to try your best to make things work because you know that you can always date other people after. Yes, it’s true that you don’t have to settle for anyone who you think is undeserving of you. But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be putting every ounce of energy that you have into trying to make your relationships work.
6. You think that all people of the opposite sex are the worst.
A few rotten apples shouldn’t mean that you swear off eating apples for the rest of your life. So just because you’ve had a few bad experiences in love with people of the opposite sex doesn’t mean that all of them are bad. You just have to stay faithful and resilient in your pursuit of the right love.
7. You think that you aren’t worthy of anyone’s love.
It’s foolish to say that people can’t love you if you don’t learn to love yourself first. Of course, it’s possible. It’s just that you can make it so much easier for other people to fall in love with you if you just show them what it means to be in love with you and that all starts with you loving yourself.
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