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7 Types of Men Who Will Always Cheat, Even If They Have The Best Wives

Ethan Collyer Ethan Collyer | December 2, 2023 | 9 min read

Let’s figure out why some guys might do the wrong thing, like cheating, even when they have awesome wives. There are different types of guys with their own reasons, like wanting excitement or looking for approval. Knowing about these can help couples make their relationships stronger. Open communication and trust are essential for addressing these issues, as they can help prevent feelings of neglect or dissatisfaction. Couples who understand the motivations behind infidelity often find it easier to navigate the challenges of dealing with infidelity in marriage. By fostering a supportive environment, both partners can work towards healing and rebuilding their bond.

Come along as we explore why some guys make not-so-great choices in their relationships.

1. The Eternal Bachelor

Here’s the eternal bachelor, a guy who loves the excitement of pursuing something new. Even if his wife is fantastic, he’s always searching for the next thing. Commitment might feel too restrictive for him, and settling down isn’t something he’s interested in. So, if you’re dealing with an eternal bachelor, get ready for a rollercoaster of short-lived romances. His behavior might leave you questioning your own worth, even though it’s not about you. The thrill of the chase is what drives him, often at the expense of his relationship. He might say things like, “I just need some space,” or “I’m not ready to settle down,” leaving you feeling like you’re not enough. Understanding this type of man’s need for constant novelty and excitement can help you see that his actions are about his internal struggle and not a reflection of your value as a partner. To cope, consider discussing your needs openly and explore whether his lifestyle aligns with the future you envision together.

Engaging in honest conversations about what both of you want from the relationship can be enlightening. It’s vital for you to express your needs and expectations clearly. If the eternal bachelor’s lifestyle conflicts with your vision of the future, it might be time to reassess the relationship’s viability. Consider seeking support from friends or professionals to help navigate these complex emotions. Remember, you need to maintain your self-worth and not let his actions dictate how you view yourself.

2. The Insecure One

This type of man may seem like he hit the jackpot with the best wife, but deep down, he battles with insecurities. These insecurities may lead him to seek validation outside the marriage, as he tries to convince himself that he’s still desirable. In his quest for reassurance, he may find himself in situations that compromise the trust and commitment he shares with his wonderful wife. He might frequently ask, “Do you still find me attractive?” or seek excessive compliments. His actions can be confusing, oscillating between needing constant affirmation and pushing you away when he feels overwhelmed.

Recognizing his insecurities is the first step towards understanding his behavior. Offering reassurance without enabling his dependency on external validation can create a healthier dynamic. It’s a delicate balance, and sometimes professional help is needed to build his self-esteem from within, preventing the destructive cycle of seeking validation elsewhere. Encouraging him to pursue self-improvement and self-discovery can also be beneficial for both of you.

Consider suggesting activities that boost his confidence, such as hobbies or classes he’s interested in. It’s important to foster an environment where he feels supported yet encouraged to develop his self-worth independently. Discussing these issues openly can foster understanding and empathy, reducing the need for external validation.

3. The Serial Flirt

Here’s the thing: a man who can’t resist turning on the charm, even when he’s in a committed relationship with the best wife. The serial flirt enjoys the thrill of flirting and often doesn’t see harmless banter as a threat. However, these innocent interactions can escalate, leading to emotional infidelity or worse. For the serial flirt, boundaries are often blurry, and maintaining a loyal connection can prove challenging. He might justify his actions by saying, “It’s just a harmless conversation,” or “I’m just being friendly.” But these interactions can chip away at the foundation of trust in your relationship.

While his charm can be endearing, it’s essential to communicate how these actions affect you. Establishing clear boundaries around what’s acceptable can help address the issue. It’s not about controlling his behavior but about ensuring both partners feel respected and secure. Discuss what flirting means to both of you, and find a mutual understanding that respects your relationship’s boundaries. Consider working together to build the trust and emotional closeness between you.

Engaging in a candid discussion about how his behavior impacts your feelings matters. It’s important to emphasize the importance of trust and mutual respect in your relationship. Determine what each of you considers acceptable behavior and create a set of shared boundaries. building your connection through shared experiences and quality time can also help mitigate the temptation to seek attention elsewhere.

4. The Impulsive Adventurer

Introducing the impulsive adventurer, always looking for the next exciting thing. Even if his wife is the definition of stability, he wants the thrill of the unknown. This kind of person tends to make impulsive choices, which might involve cheating. His spontaneity, while interesting, can take him down a path of betrayal, putting at risk the security provided by his great wife. He might say, “I just got caught up in the moment,” or “I didn’t think it through.” These are not excuses but indications of his struggle with impulse control. Encouraging him to find healthy outlets for his adventurous spirit, like trying new activities together, can satisfy his need for excitement without jeopardizing your relationship.

It’s about channeling that energy into experiences that bring you closer together, rather than pulling you apart. Building a life that incorporates adventure can help him find fulfillment within the framework of your relationship, reducing the temptation to seek it elsewhere. Discuss ways to incorporate excitement and surprise in your everyday lives to keep the spark alive.

Explore activities that you can both enjoy, such as traveling to new places or engaging in sports together. This can provide him with the thrill he seeks while building your bond. Encouraging creative ways to keep the relationship dynamic and engaging can also help satisfy his adventurous nature. It’s essential to communicate openly about how these adventures can be integrated into your lives without compromising the relationship’s integrity.

5. The Narcissist

Here comes the narcissist, a man who can’t get enough of looking at himself. His constant desire for praise might lead him to cheat as he looks for continuous validation and attention. Even if his wife is amazing, the narcissist’s self-centeredness might make him go after brief affairs just to boost his ego. It’s not about the wife; it’s about making sure everyone is paying attention to him. He might often say, “I just like attention,” or “I’m used to being admired.” His need for admiration can be overwhelming, leaving you feeling neglected.

Understanding the narcissist involves recognizing that his behavior often stems from deep-seated insecurities masked by a facade of confidence. This type of personality requires setting firm boundaries to protect your emotional health. While change is challenging with a narcissist, consistent boundaries and possibly seeking therapy can address the underlying issues. Emphasizing the importance of mutual respect and empathy in the relationship can help handle the complexities of being with a narcissist. Encourage open discussions about how his actions impact the relationship and find ways to address them constructively.

Consider seeking couples’ therapy to navigate the challenges that come with being in a relationship with a narcissist. It’s essential to set clear boundaries and communicate them effectively. Reinforce the importance of empathy and mutual respect to ensure a balanced dynamic. It can be beneficial to focus on building his awareness of how his actions affect others, fostering a more considerate approach to your relationship.

6. The Perpetual Seeker of Validation

This man always needs approval from outside to feel good about himself. Even if he has a great wife who loves him, he still looks for confirmation from others. Someone who always seeks validation might get involved in other relationships to fill the gaps in validation he thinks he has. Acknowledging and dealing with his need for validation in the marriage can help stop the temptation to look for it somewhere else. He might say, “I just don’t feel appreciated,” or “I need to know I’m valued.” His actions can stem from feeling unseen or unappreciated, even when you offer consistent support.

It’s essential to communicate how his search for validation affects your relationship. Encouraging him to find self-worth internally rather than externally can make a real difference. Providing genuine acknowledgment of his achievements and qualities can help, but you need this he learns to believe in himself without relying solely on external praise. Building his self-confidence can reduce the need to seek validation from others, reinforcing the bond within your relationship.

Practice regular affirmations and positive reinforcement that focus on his intrinsic qualities. Encourage self-reflection and exploration of personal interests that foster self-confidence. It’s important to have open discussions about how his pursuit of external validation affects both of you and find constructive ways to address these feelings. Building his self-esteem can ultimately improve your relationship and reduce the reliance on external approval.

7. The Lost Soul

Sometimes, a man might cheat not because he’s being mean, but because he feels lost in who he is. A lost soul has a hard time figuring out their own identity and might look for a sense of belonging in other relationships. Even if he has a great wife, he might go looking for meaning elsewhere. Helping him find himself again and making the marriage connection stronger can be the way to stop cheating for someone who feels lost. You need this for partners to recognize the married man’s signs of attraction, which can often indicate underlying issues in the relationship.

By addressing these signs openly and honestly, couples can foster a real emotional connection that counters feelings of dislocation. This proactive approach can help rebuild trust and security, allowing the individual to feel grounded in their identity and commitment. Providing a supportive space where he can explore his identity without judgment matters. Encouraging him to pursue interests and passions can help him find purpose and reduce the need to seek it outside the relationship.

Understanding his journey can build your connection and create a better partnership. Consider exploring shared hobbies or projects that align with his interests to enhance the sense of belonging within the relationship. Offer support as he discovers new facets of himself, ensuring you both feel connected and valued. Engaging in activities that promote self-discovery can strengthen his sense of identity and reinforce your partnership.

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Yolanda · July 6, 2024

Am living with a person who has all the characters mentioned above . Marriage is hell with him. I lost confidence in my self am just good for comparisons to him he even mentions it he is toxic and am finding it difficult to leave him.

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    Raisy · July 31, 2024

    Leave him, I did mine after 23 years of staying married with him…I’m finally finding myself again and hopefully I will be back to my normal self.

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    Camilla Henriksson · November 14, 2024

    Just get a divorce, i left my papers on his birthday.
    Best i ever did! 18 years married tired of threts, narcessistic gaslighting, love bombing. He never loved me! Leave befour you die in a loveless marridge.

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Anonymous · August 1, 2024

Me too. Hes all except maybe the lost soul. Im not married to him thank God but basically stuck here with him because I absolutely cannot find anyplace else to go.I want out so bad and have been looking for over a year for my own place. I cannot afford anything. I dont know what to do.

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    Tina · August 7, 2024

    Anonymous it might be best if you look to move in with a friend or family member for now if u want out & then look for a place, as you will find it easier & less stressful. Please don’t stay in a relationship or in the same house as someone you no longer love as its not good for you. I hope you find something soon.
    I finally left my man after cheating on me & ended up being stuck in the same house as him for a few years as single people. He kept trying 2get me back but I didn’t trust him. He has now finally gone as i have found a new man who is none of the above. It was the best thing I did but it took me ages to quit the relationship due to his nasty temper(mentally not physicaly).
    He controlled me so much & I didn’t realise it at all but I did once I stood back & took a proper look on things.

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    Greg · December 10, 2025

    I know of guys who cheat just because the opportunity presents itself. They have great wives but literally don’t care at that particular moment. Pisses me off to see them do this.

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N/A · October 5, 2024

My husband of 1 year and half (however we only lived to gather for 10 weeks as he was in different country, I flew to him few times)
We got together it’s been few weeks and I found out he was talking to some girl. He’s saying he didn’t have physical relationship with her and ensuring me nothing like this will happen I’m future but I am not able to let it go aa I loved him with my true and 100% heart. It’s hurting me too much.
I do t know how I should go about it.

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    OLAREWAJU OLUBUNMI VERONICA · March 19, 2025

    just pray to God to take away distraction from evil woman from him

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Arshi · April 17, 2025

I am in 26 years of college marriage caught my husband before on making matrimonial profiles looking for other woman then finally I found recently he had full relationship with woman and I was so broken when he said he is fed up of me in all these 26 years of marriage and I got no idea how to take it when I asked why did you not left me then he got no answer.

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Teresita Leigh · April 18, 2025

My marriage is hell 11 years

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Johnny Algood · July 2, 2025

yeah I had one that seems to seek attention and validation all the time there’s no way I can be in a relationship with her she is off the chain and thinks everyone except her don’t deserve nothing I had to move on because I couldn’t do enough for her so I finally caught her cheating but the good thing about it was I already knew that was happening I just sat back and watched

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Tyler · July 19, 2025

I am a man who cheated my wife. And I was the most committed and loving husband for 17 years.
And my reason isn’t listed here. It was lack of intimacy between us. My wife, one of the prettiest women that I have met ever, stopped even touching or hugging me. She just had zero desire. And she blamed me for even asking for intimacy or even hugs when she doesn’t feel like it.
And I told her that I would cheat, and she didn’t stop me.. and that’s exactly what I did!

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    Vin · May 2, 2026

    I understand what your talking about I haven’t had intimacy for over four years and my wife said I’m not interested go get a girlfriend to satisfy your needs haven’t yet only thing holding me back is I love my wife

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Chigozie · July 25, 2025

Those it mean a man that has all this symptoms don’t has through love for his woman and faithful also

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Chigozie · July 25, 2025

okay

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Hope Ochieng Owiro · January 2, 2026

good advice and lessons. let’s love 💕 our spouses and courtship partners. it pays!

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Martha · May 31, 2026

I live with a man who has all characters mentioned above 😭.I turned his life upside down 💃🥰.His side chick said to his colleagues I bewitched him 😂

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Ethan is a relationship coach and writer based in Chicago. He spent years helping people navigate the emotional complexities of modern dating, commitment, and communication before turning to writing. His style is direct, practical, and free of clichés. He covers everything from why people pull away to how to be the partner your person actually needs. Off the clock, he is a football obsessive and a decent amateur cook.