In case you’re fairly inexperienced in the world of dating, it’s never good to be known as the clingy girlfriend. Yes, your partner will want to feel loved and cared for in a relationship, but there are limits to that. Sure, you can imagine that things are going well. You might think that your man might even like the fact that you cling to him all the time. But you don’t want to have all of that just blow up in your face and take you by surprise. There are plenty of women all over the world who have been dumped and discarded just because they were being too clingy. And that’s why you need to understand how to draw the line between being intimate and being clingy in a relationship.
You always have to maintain a certain sense of intimacy in your romance. That is a given. However, a lot of girls will misunderstand the difference between being intimate and being clingy. You can’t afford to make that mistake if you want to keep your man happy. You can’t afford to be confusing the two if you want to keep your man in your life. But what is the difference really?
Well, being intimate means that you shower your man with love and affection. But so does being clingy, right? Well, not necessarily. Being clingy means you latch yourself on to your man relentlessly. It’s when you suffocate him to the point that he is actually sick of the love that you give him. There is after all, such a thing as giving too much of a good thing. And you have to make sure that you don’t overdo it with your love if you don’t want your man to end up feeling suffocated as a result. But again, you should still be making it a point to be intimate with your partner.
1. Let your man be the one who puts in the effort every once in a while.
It’s always important to establish a sense of balance in the relationship. You need to be with someone who is willing to give just as much as you are willing to give to the relationship. If you’re the one who is always compensating, then that signifies a sense of imbalance in your relationship – and that’s a sign of pure dysfunction. It shows that you are more invested in the relationship than he is.
2. Live a passionate life for yourself outside of the relationship.
Don’t let your relationship be the only thing that defines you. Don’t let your relationship be the only thing in life that you’re passionate about. You have to make sure that you are still someone who has a life beyond romantic love. Pursue your passions. Engage in various hobbies. Fuel your curiosities.
3. Have relationships outside of your relationship.
And by relationships, this means friendships. You should still have a social life outside of your romantic relationship. You can’t afford to let your partner be the sole person who makes up your entire social life. That is too much pressure to place on one person. You have to be able to branch out – expose yourself to different kinds of people. You can’t expect your partner to be okay with being the only person in your life.
4. Don’t lock yourself down until you actually talk about being exclusive.
Be open to dating other people if you’re just starting to date him. You can’t be acting like you’re exclusive even when you haven’t had that talk yet. You can’t be so entitled to think that he’s going to commit to you just because you have been on a few dates. It’s wrong to assume anything without first talking about it.
5. Give your partner space and privacy when they ask for it.
Just because you are in a relationship together doesn’t automatically mean that you are entitled to take control of your partner’s life. You have to be able to give him time and space whenever he asks for it. You have to let him be his own person. You can’t tie him down and expect him to always want to be with you. You have to allow him the freedom that he needs to be his own man.
6. Don’t dictate what your partner should be doing when they’re not with you.
Trust him enough to let him do what he wants to do when he’s not with you. Part of being in a healthy relationship is trust. And if you are always keeping tabs on him even when you’re not together, it shows that you just don’t trust him.
7. Leave old relationships in the past.
Don’t bring up his exes in a specific manner – ever. It’s fine if you want to talk about romantic histories to some extent; it’s a way of getting to know each other better. But you shouldn’t be taking special interests in any particular old relationships. It shows that you are insecure and that you aren’t capable of letting these things go.
