If there’s one absolute truth in all of humanity, it’s this: we all lie every once in a while. It’s just a natural part of human existence and self-preservation. A lot of us are going to feel like we need to lie to get ourselves out of sticky jams. It’s our survival instincts kicking in; they’re forcing us to fib our way out of difficult situations so that we won’t have to face any destructive repercussions of our actions. Sometimes, lying can be justified. But a lot of times, it can be cause for extreme toxicity and discomfort in a relationship environment.
When you fall in love with someone, one of the most important things you’re going to have to build in your relationship is trust. Trust is what enables the two of you to really trust and rely on one another. Without trust in your relationship, it’s going to be hard for you to find a sense of stability and security in your relationship. Your insecurities are going to be on overdrive if you’re in a relationship with a partner who you can’t really trust or depend on. And that kind of environment is just going to be far too toxic for any relationship to survive. And that’s why building a culture of trust should always be a priority for all kinds of couples.
But alas, there are still so many of us who choose to lie in relationships. We all screw up. We are only human after all. We are imperfect and we are prone to making mistakes every now and then. But whenever we do make mistakes, the most important thing to do is to always acknowledge these mistakes and try our best to learn from them. We can’t sweep them under the rug and pretend like they never happened. That’s a very childish and immature way to handle a problem in a relationship. And that’s why you really need to be wary of a guy who is lying to you.
You don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who is wronging you at every turn and lying about it straight to your face. You don’t want to be with an immature little twit who doesn’t have the courage to own up to his own faults. You don’t want to be in a relationship with a weasel who makes a fool out of you and lies to you through his teeth. You want someone you can rely on to tell you the truth; someone who isn’t going to be afraid of keeping things real and genuine with you. You want someone who is never going to betray the trust that you give him.
So, you really need to make it a point to call out a liar when you see him. And if he refuses to change his ways, you need to be able to dump him and just walk away. You don’t want to be wasting your time on a liar. But how can you tell if you have a guy who is definitely lying to you about something? How do you know if he really is keeping something from you that you need to know about? Well, here are a few ways to tell when he’s being dishonest with you.
1. He starts to overshare.
He goes into too much detail about something – almost as if he’s been practicing his lies to you beforehand.
2. He will take some time before he responds with an answer to your question.
He’s thinking of an alibi. He’s thinking of a story. He’s trying to remember the complicated web of lies that he has been weaving since the beginning.
3. He will grow irritable and angry fairly quickly.
He’s going to get upset at all of the interrogation and he will try to mask the truth with his anger.
4. He becomes very fidgety, restless, and uneasy.
His body language is going to be very suspicious. He won’t look you in the eyes. He will be acting completely restless and uncomfortable. All of his insecurities will be on overdrive.
5. He will try to deflect everything back to you and paint you as the culprit.
It’s a classic trick. Instead of owning up to his faults, he’s going to make it seem like you are the one to blame; like you are the one who has been lying about everything this whole time. He’s going to wash his hands clean and cast the blame back on to you.
6. He will make a joke out of everything.
He will try to make a joke out of everything to make it seem like you’re just being silly. He will try to hide the truth behind a veil of some poorly placed humor.
7. Your instincts are telling you that something is just way off.
You should know by now that it’s always best to trust your instincts. When your gut is telling you that something just doesn’t feel right, then it’s probably because that’s really what’s happening.