Okay. It’s important that you understand this point first before we delve any deeper into this article: you don’t need to be in a relationship to feel happy, fulfilled, and complete in life. You are perfectly capable of doing all of those things regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not. You don’t have to change who you are just so you can get other people to like you. It’s much more important for you to stay true to your genuine self.
However, there is still no denying that love is amazing. And if you have an opportunity to experience love for yourself, you are always going to want to grab it. It’s one of the most amazing things that human beings could possibly ever experience. And you never want to deprive yourself of the chance to actually find love with someone special. Even though you don’t want to be changing who you are for the sake of getting someone to fall in love with you, you still want to make sure that you are being your best self.
And sometimes, that means getting rid of a few bad habits that might be keeping you single. There are just a few women out there who lack the self-awareness that they need to realize that they are being off-putting to any romantic prospects who might be around them. That’s why you always want to maintain a sense of introspection and self-awareness when you are putting yourself out there for love.
And once you develop that self-awareness, you will be able to police yourself whenever you are guilty of committing a few crucial mistakes that will keep you from finding the love that you are deserving of. To help you on your journey towards self-awareness, here are a few bad habits that you might be guilty of which are keeping you from being single.
1. You fail to show initiative.
It’s important that you show initiative in your romantic life. You can’t just always be sitting around waiting for love to fall right into your lap. You need to go out and make things happen. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. Just because you’re a woman doesn’t mean that you can’t make the first move.
Learn to choose better men. You don’t want to be chasing after men who are emotionally unavailable. Being in a relationship with them is practically turning right into a dead end.
3. You compare everyone to your ex-lovers.
Stop with all the comparisons. When you date a new guy, just take him for who he is. Everyone is unique and we all bring different things to the table.
4. You act fake and insincere.
No one ever likes being around a fake person. You might feel like you need to fake a few things out if you want to impress a guy. But ultimately, the truth is going to come out. And your insincerity and dishonesty are not going to look good on you. A guy is always going to want to be around a girl he can trust.
5. You show up late or you cancel on plans.
You can’t expect a guy to be taking you seriously if you’re just going to show up late every time to date or if you’re going to cancel on him a lot. Remember that these commitments that you make to him can say a lot about your character. And the failure to fulfill these commitments could result in the breaking of trust.
6. You act too controlling of people and situations.
When you are a single lady, it’s easy to always crave for control of everything that happens to your life. However, getting into a relationship means having to face a completely different animal. You’re going to have to show a willingness to relinquish some control in order to accommodate this new person in your life.
7. You feign disinterest in prospective romantic interests.
You might think that playing hard to get would be a great strategy for you to win a guy over but this is a long-debunked myth. The quickest way to get a guy to quit on you would be to make him feel like he doesn’t really have a chance at getting with you.
8. You don’t try to meet him halfway.
And of course, you need to be able to show him that you’re willing to meet him halfway too. You have to be able to prove to him that you’re not selfish; that you are willing to put forth the effort that is necessary to make things work between the two of you. You have to show him that you’re in it just as much as he is.