Nobody likes feeling used. When someone you deeply care about, whether romantically or as a friend, always takes without giving back, it hurts the relationship and makes you feel less valuable.
Ever noticed that they ask for many favors but can’t help you when you need it? They always unload their problems on you, expecting your support, but don’t care when you’re struggling. Or it could be that you think you’re in a loving relationship, but they seem more focused on getting laid than spending quality time together to get to know you better.
All these signs show that you’re dealing with a person who’s using you.
1. They don’t care how you feel
In a healthy relationship, caring about each other’s feelings is important. If someone is using you, they might not pay attention to how you’re feeling. They might not ask or show concern when you’re upset or happy. It’s like they’re not interested in your emotions.
2. The conversation is always about them
Good conversations in a relationship involve both people sharing and listening. If someone is using you, they might only talk about themselves. They don’t seem curious about your thoughts or experiences. It’s like they’re not interested in getting to know you better.
3. They have commitment issues
Healthy relationships need commitment from both sides. If someone is using you, they might avoid making plans for the future or discussing where the relationship is going. They might seem unsure or distant when it comes to committing to the relationship.
4. They expect too many favors
In a balanced relationship, favors and help should go both ways. If someone is using you, they might always ask for favors but not offer to do things for you in return. It feels like they’re taking advantage of your kindness.
5. They can’t compromise
Relationships involve compromise and finding middle ground. If someone is using you, they might always want things their way. They don’t seem interested in finding solutions that work for both of you. It’s like they’re not considering your needs.
6. You always have to come to their rescue
Helping each other is normal in a relationship, but if someone is using you, they might rely on you to solve all their problems. It’s as if they only come to you when they need something fixed, and they’re not there for you in the same way.
7. They never say “thank you”
Appreciation and gratitude are important in any relationship. If someone is using you, they might not say thank you when you do things for them. It’s like they expect you to help them without acknowledging your efforts.
8. You only see them when they need something from you
In a genuine relationship, spending time together should be enjoyable for both people. If someone is using you, they might only reach out when they need something – like a favor or support. It feels like they’re not interested in spending time with you just for the sake of being together.
Do any of these signs sound familiar? We’d love to hear from you – drop a comment and let’s talk about understanding healthy relationships!
Hi there. Yes that sounds alot like what I’m dealing with. He has said something about spending our lives together, but then when I say something he changes the subject or ignores me. Nevermind the fact I feel like the only times he reallyntalks is to get sex. He has barely spoken to me since I saw him last.
Sounds like my husband we met in Australia after 13 years we moved to UK to be close to my family and have our own family a year later he wants to move back to Australia insensitive to the fact I would like to spend time with my family as he doesn’t get on with his and I don’t want to have children the other side of the world from mine he makes excuses like I thought I was your family and thinks people don’t like him
I am 35 and would like children and my time.is running out
We have many businesses together that he will claim are all his.
Its very hard to raise children without family help . Dont move if his cant help w the pregnancies or babies . Im telling you from experience ny ex husband moved me away and I felt suicidal taking care of a newborn alone . He was NO help ! Ive left him since but it wasnt easy 🙁