He may not be as nice as you think.
In the eyes of the law, intent plays a very big role. Often in judgment, intent can mean the difference between life and death. The same can also be said about peoples’ intentions in relationships. Going into a relationship, you have to be fully aware of your own intentions and those of your partner’s. In the interest of protecting your heart from any malicious behavior, you always have to be able to stay guarded. You have to be vigilant. You have to know whether your partner is playing you or not. If you go about this a little too nonchalantly, you risk opening yourself to being screwed over.
A lot of us will have trust issues going into a relationship, and that’s perfectly fine. We don’t want to close ourselves off to the prospects of love, but we don’t want to be too open either. We want to be able to protect ourselves from those men who don’t exactly have the best intentions. Let’s face facts. Not all men are going to be genuine. Not all men are kind. A lot of men are going to be pigs who will act selfishly just to satisfy their own personal desires at the expense of women. That’s why it is absolutely imperative for women to always keep an eye out for these kinds of men.
Now, it can be difficult to tell whenever a man is being disingenuous because they have mastered the art of deception. They know all the right things to say and all the right gestures to make to compel their women to let their guards down. You should know better. But if you don’t, that’s okay. That’s what this article is for. If you find that your man is exhibiting the kind of behavior that will be mentioned here, then you should do yourself a favor and run away as fast as you can. He just wants to play you and leave you heartbroken in the end. Here are the top signs that your man doesn’t necessarily have the best intentions when it comes to dating you.
1. He keeps reiterating that he is a genuinely nice guy
A person who is a genuinely nice guy would never feel compelled to tell other people. They are confident about the nobility of their intentions and they don’t feel like they have to overcompensate in any manner.
2. He doesn’t have any real friends.
If you find that he doesn’t really have a core group of people around him that he can call his close friends, then you should definitely worry. It means that there’s something really off about his character and people just generally don’t like being around him.
3. Anything that comes out of his mouth is really vague and ambiguous.
All of his lines and his answers to your questions are really vague and ambiguous. Words seem to be coming out of his mouth, but you never really feel like you get a good grasp on what he’s saying. He’s deliberately hiding something behind his ambiguity and he can’t be trusted.
4. He pressures you into physical intimacy with him.
He’s practically revealing all of his cards right here. All he wants is your body and not you. He just wants all the physical pleasures that he can derive from being with you and he’s not really interested in having a genuine emotional relationship with you at all. He is always pressuring you into doing sexual favors for him even when you’re not comfortable with it. It just goes to show that there’s only one thing that’s on his mind and it’s definitely not your heart.
5. He demeans and belittles you a lot.
And he has this weird skill wherein he masks his insults with compliments. He will make it seem like he is being nice to you but in reality, he’s essentially trying to destroy your spirit. He wants you to feel like you have to earn his approval so that he can keep you hooked on to him.
6. The truth isn’t necessarily his strongest suit.
You catch him telling you lies all too often and this is a great cause for suspicion. If he can lie to you about any number of things, then what is stopping him from lying to you about his intentions for the relationship? Dishonesty is never something that you should have to be tolerated over and over again in a relationship. You definitely need to find yourself someone who is completely open and honest with you about everything.
7. You don’t really have a good sense of who he is as a person.
No matter how long you stay together as a couple, you never feel like you can get a good read on him. You don’t really feel like you can trust him because of his shady behavior. All of the red flags are there and your subconscious is telling you that this man is not one whose intentions are pure.
8. Your instinct is telling you so.
Trust your gut. It’s there for a reason. It exists to protect you from all the harms of the world and it is rarely ever wrong.
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Have you been in this position? Talk to me in the comments below!
Hard to believe there are Soo many grown men behaving this way. Scary reality. may I say whom play with a human being feelings, shame on you. . It’s disgusting. It has taken me over a year to build up from this. Narcissistic,manipulation krap,,, it is abuse period!
Shining on I am. My Soul will meet your Soul. Excited for this Day. Amen.
I’ve been in a relationship for 12 years almost. I’ve been under extreme anxiety the last four years. Now I don’t mean to blame this on a partner. But he’s my only long term partner so I don’t know any different. I just know that he has never had good intentions at heart when it comes to me. When I tell him no and to respect me he doesn’t. He can’t communicate atall. He has lied to me a number of times now. Over time it’s made me have repressed anger toward him. I’ve experienced many losses in terms of my independence, not having children because he doesn’t want to, isolating from friends which changed my life massively. I’d already had a bit of a hard time growing up and I feel completely taken advantage of. I’m so forgiving and I have a good heart. I have to big myself up and always put myself and my health first now because I had many days where I’d felt I wish I never woke up. Xxx
This feels like what I could be going through 🙁 He is so loving but I don’t trust him. I don’t want to be without him right now but not sure we will stay together for too many years. I want to help this man and be there for him and not abandon him. Maybe we’ll grow and be great together, only God knows. I pray things are better for you now <3. God bless.