1. Your ex just assumed that they were entitled to taking full control of your life.
When you get into a relationship with someone, it’s normal for both of you to expect to share a substantial bulk of your lives with one another. You will make compromises and sacrifices for one another. You would willingly open up to each other about your most intimate thoughts and opinions. But despite that, you should both still be able to maintain your sense of individuality. And to add to that, you still need to be able to respect one another’s boundaries. Just because you are in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean that you are entitled to controlling how that person should live their life.
2. Your ex always found a way to make everything about themselves.
Whenever you did something that would make you proud, they would automatically try to invalidate it. Whenever you managed to find success in your life, they will find a way to bring the attention back to them by telling about something even more impressive that they have done. It’s the same for the bad things too. When you’re going through a rough patch or a difficult trial, they will find a way to one-up you by bringing up the personal problems and demons that they are having to deal with.
3. Your ex would always use you as a tool to achieve their own personal desires.
You weren’t really considered as an end in the relationship. You were never made to feel like you were the goal or the priority. Your ex always made you feel like you were just a simple part in a much bigger scheme. They always made you feel like you were a mere tool; a mere means to an end. They always made you feel like you were only there to serve a greater purpose that somehow only benefited them.
4. Your ex ruthlessly stepped on the toes of other people just to get ahead.
Your ex used to do anything to come out on top even if meant cheating and manipulating others just to get their way. They were absolutely ruthless and they had no dignity. They didn’t care about how their actions and words would impact other people. They acted on their own accord and they were only ever really looking out for themselves. They would lie, cheat, and steal just to get ahead and they would do it with no guilt or remorse whatsoever.
5. Your ex was incredibly selfish.
They never really gave a damn about the needs or wants of other people. On the off chance that they could get the opportunity to do something nice for others, they would only willingly do so if it also benefitted them in the long run. It’s all about them. They only do or say anything that benefits them. They couldn’t care less about the happiness or welfare of the people around them.
6. Your ex thought that you owed them all of your time and they owed you none of theirs.
They always expected the people around them to bend at their will. They always assumed that you would drop whatever it is you were doing just to be of service to them. They expected you to make time for them regardless of whether it was convenient or not for you to do so. They always wanted you to put them first even though they weren’t willing to do the same for you. They would never adjust their time for you, but they always wanted you to make sure that you adjusted your time for them. They always saw their own time as something that was more valuable than your own. They would make you wait for them but they would never wait for you.
7. Your ex automatically assumed that all of the people they met where attracted to them.
They always saw themselves as the supreme example of the human race. They saw themselves as prime beings the best possible versions of what mankind had to offer. They always sought to lift their own bench whenever they could. They had huge insecurities within them and they felt the need to cover these insecurities up by ballooning their egos to the size of skyscrapers. They always assumed that they were incredibly attractive people when the truth was that they were absolutely repulsive underneath it all.
8. Your ex was a huge douchebag.
To put it simply, your ex was a huge douchebag. They never really cared about how their words and actions would negatively impact the people around them. They would always just do what they want. Sometimes, they would even deliberately hurt others even when there wasn’t any logic or reason to do so. It’s just innate for them to be a natural pain in the butt for other people. They just found joy in the misery of others and they were terrible human beings.
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