Have you dated a narcissist?
Narcissism is amental disorder and it shouldn’t be ignored. Yes, it may be a mild oddity, butif left unchecked, it has the potential to wreak havoc in a relationship.Narcissistic people are individuals who have overblown and exaggeratedimpressions of their own value and self-worth. They are people who assume thattheir life importance is significantly much higher than those of others.Narcissists are also known to be incredibly needy. They are insecure about whothey are as people and they are in constant search of validation from others.They constantly require attention and they love to hog the spotlight.
Other words usedto describe narcissists include conceited, selfish, unstable, and downrightobnoxious. It can be stressful being in a relationship with a narcissist.Typically, people in relationships need to suppress their egos in an effort toaccommodate another person into their lives. However, this can prove to be adifficult tasks for narcissists to undertake. It would be difficult for anyone tofind a narcissist who would willingly deflate their own egos for the sake ofanother person. This is where the clash in relationships stems from. That’s whyyou should be very wary of getting into relationships with a narcissist.
If you are thetype of person who just assumes the best of people, then good for you. Yougenuinely believe in the good of humanity. However, this belief system can alsoblind you from bad characters. This is where you have to be careful. If youwant to avoid dating narcissists, but don’t know how to spot one out from acrowd, then read through this list. Here are a few signs that a guy is realnarcissist.
1. His favorite topic during conversations is himself.
He just can’tstop yapping about himself. He always likes to lift his own bench in thepresence of others. During conversations, he will always find a way to bringthe discussion back to something that relates to him. He also isn’t a greatlistener. He isn’t interested in whatever it is other people have to say unlessit’s about him.
2. He is nice and charming but only if he knows he can getsomething out of it.
He always has ahidden agenda. He always has an ulterior motive. He can’t be acting nice justfor the sake of being nice. He only acts in ways that can benefit him. He wouldnever be genuinely nice because it’s his inherent nature to be. He always hasto be able to get something out of it in return. He isn’t the type of personwho gives without expectations.
3. He talks the talk but he rarely walks the walk.
Narcissists talka big game. They are always going on and on about how great they are and howthey have superior personality and character traits. However, when it comes toactually delivering on what they’re saying, they rarely ever pull through.They’re better talkers than they are doers.
4. He is impatient and stubborn.
He doesn’t like to be kept waiting. Well, in fairness, no one ever likes to be kept waiting.But a lot of people understand that patience is always necessary in life.However, a narcissist is the type of person who believes that his time is always more important than others. He thinks that other people have to adjust to cater to him.
5. He doesn’t respect rules or boundaries in the relationship.
He isn’t thekind of guy who would care about how his actions would make you feel. He alwaysacts on his own accord. He doesn’t give a damn about your feelings or youropinions on various matters. Even if you have your limits or your boundaries,he would willingly step over them if he pleased.
6. He has a false sense of entitlement.
He has givenhimself a false sense of entitlement. He thinks that he is entitled toeverything that he wants. He believes that he deserves all of the good thingsin life. He doesn’t feel like he has to work as hard as other people to get thethings that he wants.
7. He manipulates you.
He’s a user. Heis always using other people to satisfy his personal desires. He doesn’t reallysee people as human beings. He sees other people as tools he can use to furtherhis own personal agenda. That’s why dating a narcissist would be absolute hell.He would be manipulating you into doing things that you’re not comfortabledoing just so he can be happy.
8. It’s not enough for him that he succeeds, he wants to seeothers fail.
He always wants to be able to set himself apart. That’s why it’s not enough for him that he finds success. He also wants other people to fail in the process. He doesn’t want to be seen on equal footing with anyone else because he thinks he should be in a category on his own.
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