In matters of the heart, being a priority is essential. If your partner doesn’t value you as your first priority, then he is definitely not the one because when someone truly loves you, and you are important to them, they want to see you happy and satisfied in a relationship.
Discovering that you might be someone’s backup plan can be tough and emotionally draining. This can leave you feeling unimportant and unsure about where you stand in their life. You deserve to be a priority, not someone’s second option.
Let’s look at the signs that you might be his second choice, so you can recognize the warning signals and make decisions that prioritize your happiness and well-being.
He Takes Forever to Text Back
If he consistently takes a long time to respond to your messages, it may indicate that you are not his top priority. A person who values you would make an effort to be attentive and respond promptly.
He Makes Plans with You at the Last Second
If he frequently makes plans with you at the last moment, it suggests that he may not be prioritizing you in his life. Someone who genuinely values your time would plan ahead and show consideration for your schedule.
He Doesn’t Go Out of His Way to See You
If he rarely goes out of his way to spend time with you or make special efforts to be together, it may imply that you are not his first priority. A person who truly cares about you would make the extra effort to nurture the relationship.
He Shows Up Late
Consistently arriving late for your dates or meetings can be hurtful, as it may suggest that you are not his top priority. Punctuality reflects respect and consideration for the other person’s time, which is essential in any relationship. If he doesn’t value your time enough to be on time, it might be a red flag that you are not his first choice.
He Owns Dating Apps
Having dating apps on his phone while being in a relationship can be a clear sign that he’s still keeping his options open. It may indicate that he is not fully committed to you and considers you a second choice.
He Forgets Important Things
If he frequently forgets important dates or events in your life, it may indicate that you are not at the top of his mind. Remembering important details and being attentive are signs of genuine interest and priority.
He Doesn’t Consult You Before Making Important Decisions
If he consistently makes significant life choices without consulting you, seeking your input, or considering your feelings, then it’s a major red flag and a clear sign that he doesn’t see you as an equal partner. In a healthy relationship, both partners should value each other’s opinions and include one another in crucial decisions.
You’re the Only One Putting in Effort
If you find yourself consistently putting in all the effort to nurture the relationship, it could indicate that he is not fully committed. A healthy relationship thrives on mutual effort and dedication from both partners, as it takes two to build a strong and lasting bond. When one person carries the entire burden of maintaining the relationship, it can lead to imbalance and dissatisfaction in the long run.
Yes. That is correct and when you are together he always watching on her phone it’s like you are not around. When you talk to him he is not paying attention.
STRONGLY AGREE
Exactly! He must change. Otherwise, I want another man, who is better!!
When you love and trust someone to the point that you take for granted all these signs.
Yeah ,well I thought I was the only one ,buy there were so many signs ,plus people telling me what they seen ,and heard …so I left him alone ..he can have itb,,I’m not going to be NOBODYS SECOND CHOICE
Thank u , me too. I’m not anyone’s 2nd or 5th option or last resort at 2 am.
!Thank you for opening up my eyes …I was so stupid to admit even I saw all the signs,red flags. But when I read this I got a courage to let go.
I just wasted those years admitting suffering for emotional abuse,which in the long run some guys are running to get me.Its really sickening to realize And I didn’t deserve to be treated like this.
No one deserves to be treated like that. I’ve been on my own since age – 17 couldn’t wait to have my own place to feel grown up. It worked for a few months & I never grew up.Still a little adolescent brat. So if I sense some one did that to me ,all brake fluid in his car would b gone. Whether he crashes & smashes his head either way I’m done
The same for female !!!!
Will my marriage end
Did he meet someone else, does he even love me? Will my marriage end?
He is using you for his convenience get out now!!
just take it easy with him..if he comes begging give him another chance but if he doesn’t appear .. just move on with your life and walk away
I was ounce a second choice u know ….I thought I was loved and that he was busy like for real….n he ended marrying another girl whilst I was just there.i just saw pictures when other people were posting him that was so heartbreaking but I’m still hearing u know 😊. Luckily I now got someone who is too good to real.
I know your pain 😥
I’ve been dating for almost 7 years now. He has been great, cooking for me, short holidays, arranged my birthday celebration, I’ve met his young kids and been out together with them. His divorce is still not finalised yet because of his difficult unreasonable estranged wife. I’ve never met his disabled mum who lives alone. His parents were divorced when he was a kid. His sister knew we are dating and I’ve never met her either. He lives 2 and half hours drive from me so we meet up only once a fortnight. We never talked about our future, just spend time as time goes. We are usually happy and never quarrel, just sometimes a bit of an argument over silly things.
Am I wasting my time on this relationship? 🤔
What if it was your husband and someone was asking this question ⁉️⁉️ Yes your waisting your time. You want to destroy someone’s home
I am not sure, but the fact that you do not talk about future at all could be a red flag, meaning that no relationship without a bit of commitment could ever last, in my opinion. It just a relationship in a survive mode, I am afraid. And yes, unless you are happy with this, you are waisting your time. And so am I.
Then you shouldn’t go out with a man who is attached.
I’m sorry, I have no pity for you.
If he had two kids with someone, that was a serious relationship.
Sometimes they wake up from their stupidity and realize what they had was worth everything.
That there is no replacement of that kind of love, and they become better people
Was dating a man for 4 months when he said he needed space and other priorities ( not me) so I dumped him and blocked .. end of story
Was I right?