Is she using you?
It’s terrible when you find out that you’re just being used by another person in your relationship. Of course, to an extent, we use our partners for various reasons. But these reasons are never shallow or materialistic. These reasons are always founded in foundations of love, respect, fulfilment, and affection. If you find out that your girl is only using you for your money for instance, then that’s another story entirely. That’s something that isn’t grounded in who you are as a human being. It’s only a mere add-on to your character and that’s not something that you can really build a strong emotional bond or connection around. You invest so much of yourself into another person for all the right reasons; but then you become so disheartened when you realize that they don’t do the same with you.
There is this common belief going around that men are always the assholes in relationships. But that’s not entirely true. Women can be just as heartless and as impersonal as men. They can be just as ruthless. And a lot of times, a woman’s ruthlessness vastly outweighs that of a man’s. There are so many relationships around the world that are built on real lies and bad intentions. There are countless women out there who only get into relationships with their men for reasons that are less than ideal. These are the women who take advantage of their partners’ emotions; and they try their best to milk as much as they can out of the relationship to their own selfish benefits. It takes a lot for a man to become vulnerable to a woman, but when he does decide to open up, he often goes all-in. And when that happens, he becomes susceptible to all of the abuses and the manipulative acts of women. These user-friendly women will do whatever they can to keep their men invested in them until they grow tired of manipulating these men to their advantage. You never want to be on the receiving end of a woman’s abusive and manipulative behavior. And the only way you could ever avoid making yourself a victim of this kind of circumstance is to make yourself aware of the signs of a woman’s less-than-noble intentions right away. But how do you do that? Well, you just have to make sure that you know what you’re looking for. If you find that your girl is guilty of a lot of the things that are listed on here, then you know that she isn’t the right one for you.
1. She is with you only because she likes being associated with you.
She doesn’t necessarily like you, but she’s in love with the idea of being with you. Perhaps you’re a person of rank or dignified status. And she knows that there is much to gain from being involved with you romantically. But at the end of the day, there is no love there at all.
2. She doesn’t introduce you to the most important people in her life.
She isn’t invested in making you a part of her world. She doesn’t want you to take a deep glimpse into her life because she knows that you won’t like what you find. Your relationship isn’t real and she’s just putting up a charade.
3. She doesn’t go deep in her conversations with you.
She only really ever talks about the shallow stuff of day-to-day life. There is no real connection between you and she isn’t interested in what really makes up your character.
4. She doesn’t offer to pay for dates.
She doesn’t pay for dates. She doesn’t buy you gifts. She doesn’t want to shell out any of her cash because she is mostly interested in what she can get from you.
5. She takes a vested interest in the amount of money that you earn.
She is only with you because of the cash that you’re raking in. Her eyes light up whenever you talk about what you earn, but she isn’t really interested in anything else.
6. She always tries to make it all about herself.
She always finds a way to make herself the center of attention in the relationship. She doesn’t really see the both of you on equal footing. She is more invested in what she can get than what she can actually do for you.
7. She is constantly nagging around you.
She doesn’t care about what her words will make you feel. She is a spoiled brat who thinks she is entitled to being treated like a princess. She will constantly nag and complain until she gets her way with you.
8. She always asks you for space and time apart.
Are you even in a real relationship if she is constantly requesting to be away from you? She doesn’t want anything to do with you she’s only after what you can give her.
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