People who have been through breakups in the past won’t be afraid to tell you – they’re just really difficult. When you get into a loving relationship with someone, you invest so much in that relationship. You try your best to make things work with one another but sometimes, it just isn’t in the cards for you. You might love one another, that’s for sure. But love alone isn’t enough to make a relationship work.
And you have to be mature enough to accept that. You can’t just be complacent in your relationship purely because you know that you and your partner are in love with one another. That’s a fairly quick way to get broken up with by your partner.
And going through breakups are never easy. They can be very difficult emotional ordeals that a vast majority of us won’t really be able to cope with in a healthy manner. But you know what makes breakups really difficult? It’s when you don’t see one coming. It’s when you’re blindsided by one. When you are anticipating a breakup in your relationship, there are a couple of things that you are able to do. Either you can try to save the relationship by fixing all of the problems that you know exist or you just brace yourself for the breakup which you know to be inevitable.
Either way, you get to prepare yourself for the hurt that is to come. But when you’re too stupid and blind to see that a breakup is imminent, the shock of it all is just going to wreck you when it does come. That’s why you always want to make it a point to be staying on top of your relationships. You want to make sure that you are reading your partner’s mood accurately at all times. If not, then you are effectively dooming yourself and your relationship as a whole.
Make sure to be on the lookout for the red flags that your partner is going to break up with you. If you feel lost and you don’t know how to go about that, the just continue to read on until the end of the article.
1. Think if he’s deliberately trying to avoid spending time with you.
He doesn’t want to be around you for one big reason: he’s trying to hide his displeasure with you and the relationship. He wants to figure out how he really feels without you.
2. Pay attention to the quality of your conversations.
How much is he opening himself up to you? How engaged is he when he’s talking to you?
3. Initiate physical intimacy with him and see his response.
Try to kiss him. Hug him. Hold his hand. If he seems unresponsive, then it’s likely that your partner is really falling out of love with you.
4. Observe his behaviour when he’s with other girls.
Is he being flirty even when you’re watching? Then you know that that’s an issue.
5. See if you can find anything out from his friends.
Ask his friends if he’s been talking to them or mentioning anything about your relationship. But don’t be snoopy about it. Act in a genuine interest for the sake of your relationship.
6. Gauge how much time he’s spending on other things over you.
You can tell a lot about where a man’s interests and priorities lie based on where he is spending his time. If he’s not spending his time with you, then you know that that is a real problem.
7. Check the manner in which he texts with you.
He might not be texting you with so many emojis and details anymore. He might not be showing much enthusiasm in conversing with you.
8. He tells you that he wants to take a break.
And this is the biggest sign that he wants space from you. He wants to take a break and see what it’s like outside of your relationship.
WHAT TO DO
If you happen to find yourself in a situation where you believe that he’s going to break up with you, don’t’ pester him about it. Don’t act confrontational. Don’t be so aggressive in wanting to fix things with him. If you make it feel like you’re panicking, he’s only going to panic as well and you will find yourselves in a high-pressure situation. You definitely don’t want that. Just approach him intimately and casually.
Let him know about your fears and insecurities about where you both stand in the relationship. Talk about your feelings and your woes. Discuss where your minds are at and try to find a way to fix the issues that you have with one another. At the end of the day, your relationship is not going to end unless you both give up on it. If you’re still willing to make things work, then there’s no reason for the relationship to come to a close.