Have you been unfortunate enough to have always found yourself in relationships with men who are emotionally unavailable? What exactly does an emotionally unavailable guy look like and why is it bad to be in a relationship with one? Well, in a relationship, it’s always important for the two people involved to be emotionally open to one another. Without emotional openness, it can be very hard for two individuals to get intimate and close to each other. You always want to open yourself up to someone you love; and you want that person to be just as open to you as well.
You don’t want to be wasting your time with someone who is emotionally unavailable because your relationship is always going to have a ceiling. You’re going to reach a sticking point – and you won’t be able to progress precisely because of the emotional unavailability. It’s important for you to know that you aren’t alone if you happen to find yourself in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable. There are so many men who are so closed off to the women that they’re in relationships with. Of course, you can still stick around and you can try to wait it out.
Maybe he will eventually allow himself to open up to you the more he falls in love with you. But that’s a chance that you’re going to have to take – and it doesn’t always pay off. The key is in being able to spot whether a man is worth taking a chance on or not. Of course, you can’t expect all men to just be naturally open especially at the start. Even you wouldn’t want to open yourself up too much when the relationship is still young. Over time, you’re going to have to grow to trust one another – and with that trust comes openness and vulnerability. However, there are some men who will refuse to budge.
And these are the men that you just can’t afford to be wasting time with. These are the men that you just need to cut off right away. But how do you identify these men? Well, first you need to make yourself aware of the signs. There are certain red flags that could indicate whether a man is going to open up to you or not. And if you seek these red flags early on, then you will be able to save yourself a lot of wasted time with a guy who is never going to open himself up to you.bHere are some signs that you’re in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable:
1. He seems more like a robot than a person.
2. He is incredibly self-centered.
3. He’s selective when it comes to the people he’s nice to.
4. He refuses to take responsibility for his faults.
5. He considers sex to be of utmost priority in your relationship.
6. He bottles up his frustrations.
7. He has never been in a long-term relationship.
8. He has had a traumatic relationship experience.
FINAL THOUGHTS:
There’s nothing fun about having to date someone who is emotionally unavailable to you. And that’s precisely why you’re reading this article in the first place. You’re frustrated and you want a change. You want to do something about it. You don’t want to have to put up with emotionally unavailable men anymore. You want to be in a real relationship with someone who is open, expressive, communicative, and trustworthy.
And you must always keep the faith that this man is out there. He’s looking for you just as you’re looking for him. Believe that you’re going to find that love eventually. It’s also important for you to realize that none of this is your fault. You shouldn’t be blaming yourself that you have a guy who is emotionally unavailable. The issues lie with him; you are a victim of the situation. He’s the one who has the problem and he needs to be able to address these issues on his own. IF you honestly know that you were being emotionally open, receptive, and patient with him, then you have nothing to be ashamed of. You gave it your best shot; and it just wasn’t in the cards for you. You just happened to be unlucky enough to be with a guy who didn’t respond to you in the way that you wanted.
But now, you’re wiser and more aware. You now know how to spot an emotionally unavailable man when you see him. You are going to be able to really keep yourself guarded once you spot him; and you won’t be getting your hopes up anymore. You won’t be setting yourself up for disappointment any longer. You are a silent observer. And you are now more equipped to guard your heart than ever.
And once you do find a man who is going to open himself up to you; then make sure that you let yourself be open to him as well.
