As ironic as it may seem, there are just so many of us in the dating world who are actually players without us realizing it. And it’s important that we develop a sense of self-awareness so that we are able to check ourselves.
We have to remember that we need to be putting forth our best possible selves if we want someone to fall in love with us. And if we continuously find ourselves in toxic and terrible relationships that only end in burning flames, then we have to consider the possibility that we are the ones to blame here.
Maybe you are a player and you just never give your partner the security and confidence that they might need to fall in love with you. It happens. So many people today lack the self-awareness that they need to correct toxic behavior. And you might just be one of those people.
If you’re curious to know if you’re a player or not, just read on until the end of this article. If a lot of the things that are listed on here actually apply to you, then chances are you are a player.
1. Your only mode of communication is flirtation.
You don’t really talk about your feelings or emotions. You don’t really engage in long philosophical discussions about your views of the world. You don’t go deep when you talk about your hopes and your dreams. The only kind of communication that you engage in is flirtation – and that’s a sign of a true player right there.
2. You keep tally of the number of suitors that you have turned down.
You treat it like a game. You get a real kick out of shooting other people down. It’s almost like an ego boost to you. You don’t date people with the intention of falling in love with them. You just want to see how much you can get them to be interested in you. And once you’re bored, you cast them to the side like mere playthings. You are toying with peoples’ feelings and that’s just not cool at all.
3. You automatically expect men to pay on your behalf.
You are always feeling so entitled. You go on dates with the kind of mindset that is so unhealthy and toxic. You just automatically assume that men should pay for you. For what reason? Because you want them to. You don’t want a relationship with them. You’re just looking for a good time and a free meal to go along with it.
4. You automatically assume that men will drop everything for you.
Another huge sign that you’re a player is that you always expect men to bend over backwards for you. You’re not really interested in fulfilling their needs. You don’t care much about taking care of them. You are only concerned with what you can get out of them. And you act like a spoiled brat whenever things don’t go your way. That’s not what true love is about.
5. You don’t date someone unless he is earning a certain amount of money.
This is yet another great sign that you’re just being selfish that you’re only looking out for yourself. You aren’t looking for a real relationship. You’re looking for a financial safety net. You’re looking to win the lottery in the form of a person. You objectify men and you would be so quick to dump the rich guy for an even richer one.
6. You use sex as a way of getting what you want.
A lot of people consider sex to be more than just a physical act. It’s also a very intimate and emotional one. But you don’t care much about that. You have no problems using sex as a tool to get what you want. You use it as a tool to manipulate people into behaving a certain way. And that’s definitely something a player would do. You would never do that to someone you’re genuinely in love with.
7. You don’t really have any other thing going on in your life.
You’re treating the dating game like it’s really the only thing that you have going on in your life. It’s practically your whole life, really. You don’t have any other hobbies. You don’t have any other interests. Your career path is practically nowhere to be found. You’re just dating and dating without having any real plans or goals in life.
8. You don’t commit to a single person for too long.
Naturally, you must know by now that commitment is a determining factor in any kind of real relationship. And if you’re just unable to really commit yourself to someone, then you’re the problem. That’s something about your personality that you really need to fix if you want to find true love. You can’t expect to find happiness in a relationship if you are constantly getting distracted with the prospect of dating other people.
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