It just sucks whenever the feelings that you might have for someone you love aren’t being reciprocated or broadcasted back to you. It sucks even more when you’re supposedly in a relationship with one another. You never want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t really give you what you’re due. You never want to be in love with someone who is only going to take you for granted. However, it still happens a lot in plenty of relationships.
In fact, you might actually be a victim in your own relationship as well without you even knowing it. Love has a way of doing that to people. It can often blind you to the reality of your situation. It can compromise your rationality. And instead of seeing things the way that you need to be seeing them, you only see what you want to see. But that’s dangerous.
You should never have to put up with a guy who is only going to take you for granted. That’s not how it should be in any kind of loving relationship. That is why if you notice that your man is exhibiting a lot of the following behaviours, it might be best for you to just get out of the relationship entirely:
1. He dismisses your feelings and emotions.
He acts dismissive of your feelings and your emotions. He doesn’t make you feel like you have a voice in the relationship. He never acknowledges the things that you might want to get off your chest.
2. He doesn’t show appreciation for the things that you do in your relationship.
He doesn’t really express his appreciation for you in your relationship. Whenever you do something nice, he doesn’t really react or give you any sense of validation. But when you screw up, he’s so quick to make you feel bad about it. He never really shows gratitude for the value that you add to his life. It’s as if you’re a major inconvenience to him.
3. He believes that his thoughts always trump yours.
He is the kind of guy who thinks that his thoughts and opinions are always going to trump yours. He thinks that his thoughts are always more valuable and so he never really gives you a chance to contradict him. Whenever you try to engage him in a debate, he doesn’t really pay you any mind. He only takes you seriously whenever you agree with him or support him.
4. He tries to guilt you as a form of manipulation.
He tries to make you feel bad and guilt you whenever you screw up. And it’s not just that he wants you to feel bad. He wants to manipulate you. He wants to be able to use your guilt as a way to just get you to do something that benefits him. He wants to manipulate you and get you to do his bidding and he knows that he can use guilt as a valuable tool in doing so.
5. He threatens your sense of self-worth.
It shouldn’t be eating at your sense of self-worth and confidence whenever you get into a relationship. Your self-esteem shouldn’t be compromised directly as a result of your relationship. Your relationship should always be adding value to your life. You should have a partner who makes you feel confident and more self-assured. You don’t want to be with someone who makes you feel bad for being who you are.
6. He compares you to other people.
You know that he takes you for granted whenever he starts comparing you to other people. He should never be subjecting you to other women as if it were a competition. It’s okay for him to have certain expectations in the relationship. But he shouldn’t be making you feel inferior and undervalued especially in reference to other girls.
7. He violates your boundaries within the relationship.
He violates the boundaries that you set within the relationship. Whenever you lay down certain ground rules, he is so quick just to violate them and trample all over them. It’s a blatant show of disrespect and disregard for the things that you hold dear. He would go against the rules that you set for him if it means that he gets his way.
8. He makes you go back on the things that you believe in.
He doesn’t care that you have a solid set of principles and values you follow strictly. He doesn’t care that you have a foundation of codes and ethics that you try your best to live by. He is going to try to convince you that you are wrong in all of those as long as it means that he gets to benefit from it. He tries to convince you that everything you believe in is wrong.
