You’re a lucky woman.
As difficult as it might be to find a pure and genuine love for you in this modern age, it’s not impossible. And you really have to believe that. You really have to trust that the right love for you is out there and you just need to stay patient. And once you do find someone who has the potential to give you the kind of love that you need, then you have to make sure that you don’t let that man go.
You always need to be with someone who genuinely puts in the effort to make you feel loved and cared for. Love and effort don’t always solve all problems in a relationship; but they definitely go a long way in making a romance sustainable and strong. So never underestimate a man who is actually willing to put the work in to make sure that you don’t feel neglected and undervalued in a relationship.
So how do you know if you are privileged enough to be in a relationship with a guy who actually cares enough to put in the effort with you? Well, here are a few signs that you can be on the lookout for:
1. He returns your missed calls and responds to your text messages as soon as he is able to.
He values your time and he doesn’t want to keep you waiting. He knows that you might get anxious having to wait for him to reply to your text messages and he doesn’t want to put you through that. If he’s too busy to reply to your messages, he will let you know about it once he gets the time to do so. He doesn’t like to leave you hanging at all.
2. He makes an effort to plan your dates and he doesn’t hide his excitement to see you.
Dating is almost a lost art in the age of social media. But it isn’t lost on him – not especially when it comes to you. He is genuinely always so hyped up at the thought of being able to spend time with you. He will always consider it a pleasure to go on a date with you because he really does enjoy your company. And he won’t be shy about showing you how he feels either.
3. He genuinely acts on how he feels about you.
It’s not just all words when it comes to him. He knows how to back up what he says and how he feels by manifesting his emotions in the form of concrete actions. He knows that you just don’t want him to tell you about how much he loves you – he will do whatever he can to prove how he feels for you.
4. He doesn’t automatically dismiss your feelings and emotions.
He really wants to be able to listen to whatever you might have to say to him. He doesn’t dismiss your thoughts or opinions just because they make him feel uneasy or uncomfortable. He doesn’t shut you out just because you’re disagreeing with him. He really will value whatever you might have to say to him because he really cares about what’s in your heart.
5. He acts proud to be in a relationship with you.
He doesn’t hide you at all. He doesn’t make it seem like he’s still single. He is always willing to let it be known to the world that you’re in a relationship together because he is so proud to be with you. He thinks that you’re the kind of girl he can just show off because he thinks you’re such an amazing person.
6. He lets you fight your own battles but he defends you when necessary.
He believes in you enough to let you fend for yourself. He lets you fight your own battles. But he wouldn’t hesitate for one second to step in if you ever asked him to. He would come running whenever you call him. He would always be willing to help you in any way that he can.
7. He makes you feel loved in spite of your flaws and imperfections.
He would never make you feel like you aren’t enough for him. He would never make you feel like you have to change who you are just to make him happy. He would never make you feel insecure or ashamed of who you are just because you have some flaws. He will make you feel accepted for who you are because he genuinely does love all parts of you.
8. He consistently prioritizes your relationship over other aspects of his life.
It’s not that he makes your relationship the only thing that matters in his life. But he knows how and when to prioritize. He doesn’t put so much pressure on you or your relationship by making it the defining aspect of his life. However, he knows that when push comes to shove, he wouldn’t think twice about placing your needs above his own.
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