When you first get into a relationship with someone, it can feel like it’s just way too much way too quickly. It’s going to be quite a thrill and you’re going to be on a romantic high with one another. You are going to be so drunk in your love for each other that you might be turning a blind eye to the things that you really need to be on the lookout for. There are so many relationships out there that have substantial cracks and holes that need to be addressed even before things start to get real. And it’s important that these issues are recognized and addressed early on because they can be much harder to solve once you get deeper and deeper into the relationship.
You don’t want to be investing yourself in a relationship where you feel violated and abused. You don’t want to be latching yourself on to someone who is going to force you to compromise a lot of things that you should never be giving up at all. However, a relationship can force you to do that a lot because of blind love. That’s why you always need to stand your ground in spite of your love. Yes, your feelings of love for your partner can be very strong. But your feelings of love for yourself should be so much stronger. And it’s not even about being conceited or selfish. It’s about maintaining a sense of self-respect in the relationship.
When you are just starting out in your relationship, you have to be able to establish your expectations with one another before you actually take things to the next level. Otherwise, you aren’t going to be on the same page and the results might be catastrophic. When you don’t communicate your expectations with one another, then your partner might take that as an excuse to treat you in ways that you don’t deserve.
In a relationship, compromise is going to be essential. You are always going to have to find a way to meet your partner halfway on a lot of things. That’s a major part of being able to accommodate another person in your life. However, there are also certain things that you should NEVER have to compromise. It’s all a matter of self-respect. Here are a few of those things:
1. Demand for Open Communication
Honesty. Never compromise honesty in a relationship. Always demand full truthfulness and transparency from your partner. You should never be made to feel like you are being kept in the dark in your own relationship.
2. Safety and Security
You are always entitled to safety and security in your relationship. You should never have to put up with being in a relationship that makes you feel like you are in danger of anything. Your partner should never be compromising your sense of security and safety in any capacity.
3. Personal Ambitions
Your romantic relationship should never get in the way of your dreams. You are still entitled to pursue your biggest goals and dreams in life even if you are in a romantic relationship with someone. It might be more difficult to have your attention divided. But you shouldn’t have to give up on your dreams entirely.
4. Romantic Standards and Expectations
In any kind of relationship, there are always going to be set romantic standards and expectations. You never want to wind up with someone who is only going to take you for granted. Set your expectations early in the relationship and hold your partner accountable to them.
5. Social Life (Outside of the Relationship)
Just because you get into a relationship doesn’t mean that you should have to give up on all other relationships in your life. You still have relationships with your friends and family members. And your partner needs to respect the fact that you have to devote time to those relationships as well.
6. Sexual Boundaries
You are fully entitled to your body. Just because you are going to get in a physically intimate relationship with someone doesn’t mean that he gets to control your body. That doesn’t mean that he gets free access whenever he wants. You get final say over your body at all times.
7. Financial Independence
When you get really serious into your relationship, you are going to want to consider sharing your financial burdens and benefits. However, you should still be entitled to handle your personal finances the way that you want them to. If you want to treat yourself to something, your partner shouldn’t stop you from doing so.
You should always be able to demand fidelity from your partner in your relationship. It’s not really going to last if you’re just going to cheat on one another. You shouldn’t compromise loyalty and faithfulness in your relationship if you’re truly looking to grow and strengthen your love.